How do you find out whether the other person is the right one?

I think it's more important to recognize that everyone and everything changes with time. you may find the right one for right now, but you or the right one may change. so you either have to find someone who's always going to be flexible enough to change with you (or at least accept your changes, and the same applies in the opposite direction), or you're going to have to find someone you're willing to be so devoted to that you'll stay with them through any and all changes (and ideally the opposite applies, again), or you just have to accept that life is chaos that can never be in check and enjoy who you're with while you can and always be ready to let go and move along.

none of those seem like very good answers. sorry.

Nobody knows. Honestly, time decides this.

I'm changing my answer ....
In time you will find there is more than just one of the one ...

I'm cynical...I don't believe there is only just one ...they may live in another country or they may be your neighbor ...you don't know But I know there's more than one

Ask questions …
Have raw and open conversations…about everything

Personality including what makes them irritated / vulnerable.

Personal goals / expectations
Life goals / expectations
Relationship goals / expectations
Mutual goals / expectations such as family , finances etc

Go somewhere which has no mobile phone coverage and internet … spend time and see where conversations lead to…

And gauge the relationship based on all factors considered …


Sorry if I typed way too many ..

When you know, you know. Ya know?

We started dating when 15, and at some unknown times between that first date and our wedding almost 8 years later, we figured it out. She dated others, but chose me. I didn't need to date anybody else.

She told me

Starting out, by paying attention to how they are on a consistent basis, and not overlooking ref flags or incompatibility by hyper-focusing on only the particulars you like about them

Long term time proves it out.
Wonder how many times has it failed when someone thought they were sure in the short term.

You know in your heart

Except mine it's a complete idiot

Chemistry goes a long way

You ask the other person.

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you will know

Time