I'm turning 40 next year and I'm thinking about having a baby via sperm donation. Thoughts?

@WandererTony honestly, i've been trying to find someone but it's not looking good. i'd rather do it alone than be attached to a guy who doesn't have it together.

@blindbob Funny how you bring up a serious subject but then all the neckbeards come out of the woodwork wanting to "help".

[quote]i'd rather do it alone than be attached to a guy who doesn't have it together.[/quote]

THAT was a snappy come back even though you were being serious. :D

@blindbob absolutely understand that! But I feel there are so many pros and cons on donated sperms. It's a rather long subject and I wouldn't proceed with sharing my thoughts since I don't know your needs so well.

@CestManan what's a neckbeard? Anyways I didn't find the response snappy. Though my response was supposed to be funny in a different sort of way than your humor allowed you to understand.

@WandererTony yeah, it's not ideal, but i'm turning 40 next year, and it seems like the only route for me to have a child without putting myself in harm's way.

@WandererTony she would not know the donor but it's probably a more qualified applicant than somebody who gets on a forum offering to impregnate random women.

@WandererTony I've never had any desire to adopt for many reasons, which i can get into if you want to know. when you pick out donor sperm you have access to their profile (which includes things like educational background, genetic diseases, profession, and height) and you can even see a picture of your donor as a child. in some ways this is ideal because i am a carrier of Sickle Cell trait so i need to be matched with someone who isn't.

@CestManan when i started closing in on 40, my mom started suggesting that i should just date a guy i didn't like and use him to get pregnant or meet a random and not use protection. it just doesn't make sense to put myself at risk for a disease or to be attached with someone who could potentially be dangerous. i understand that having a father is important to children so it is something that think about, but i think it's better to have no father than an abusive one. the good thing is that some donors allow you to share their identity once the child turns 18.

@blindbob Yes, I would indeed like to know the reasons for not adopting.
Thanks for educating me on the options while selecting a doner. Looking back, I somehow feel I have wasted an opportunity. It would have felt good to know my sperms are wanted by someone somewhere.
BTW, if you can select the profile of the doner, how many of the attributes are also common to you? Or would you seek what you do not have? Hope I am not too inquisitive.

@CestManan Impregnate? Compliments on your imagination. That wasn't said explicitly. You concluded that. It could have been an offer to donate.
It was a catch and you fell for it. But you won't find that funny. Humor and imagination are God gifts that might or might not come as a package. 😃😃

@WandererTony One, it's harder for a single-parent adoption to get approved; two, it's expensive; three, i prefer not to involve the State in personal affairs; four, many children in the system have emotional and physical needs that a two-parent family would be better-equipped to handle (disabilities, FAS, trauma, mental illness, a history of sexual or physical abuse and the associated trauma-adapted behaviors, etc); five, this is hard for Americans to understand but a lot of cultures are not accepting of adoptions, adoptions are usually within families or a secret; six, you shouldn't do it if you're unsure or don't feel ready or equipped for the role.

@blindbob All points are very valid. Nice to talk to someone who has thought it all out in depth. Thanks for sparing the time. I had started lightheartedly, but it turned out to be an enlightening conversation.