What do you do when some people that are important to you make you feel less lovable and important?

@TessDun haha or write it and burn it ☺️

@Fairydust I probably will, also I am free to say everything I want ;) thanks for the idea 😁

@TessDun I hope it works out 📝🔥🤗

@TessDun You're right...it [b][i]is[/i][/b] hard. It's even harder when people assume that you're strong enough to deal with their sh*t too.

You deserve to be treated just as well as you treat everyone else and that's why I always recommend some distance; the ones that truly appreciate you will make an effort to "understand".

You can still love the others [b][i]from a distance[/i][/b]
(if you must 😉 LOL)

@LucyFuhr Distance is just not possible now. We live in close proximity and are getting together for the holidays. My only defense for now is to vent here in SW honestly it really helps instead of me lashing out to them. Also a lot of good helpful relatable experiences and answers here

@TessDun I totally get it...taking a stand during the holidays is never a good idea.

Enjoy them as much as you can and deal with the rest in the New Year 🤗

@TexChik Can’t physically, but hoping emotionally and mentally

@TessDun aww I’m sorry

@CookieCrumbs Thank you. Yes I hope so working so hard on self love and preservation by positive self talks and affirmation

@CookieCrumbs I admire your tenacity.
I was also thinking - if we say something and they then make excuses/react with more attention, is it because we said something or they genuinely wanted to. We make time for what we truly want to, right?

@SW-User
I truly believe that —- “we make time for what we truly want.”

And if someone shows again (and again) that I don’t matter that much, it’s time for me to evaluate what I want to do:
- should I stay in that situation and not complain about it?
- should I do something about my life while I have the chance instead of complaining about what someone is not giving to me?

I have always chosen the latter.
Not always easy.
But that kind of choice has always led me to something better.

@Fluffybull I just can’t, only hoping to be emotionally and mentally strong as it’s my only choice for now.

@BittersweetPotato Maybe emotionally

@TessDun out of my life

@SW-User In an ideal world happiness should not depend on other people. But it takes an immense wisdom and emotional and mental strength not to be affected when the people you care the most totally discount you. I’m done with putting them first. That is the only way to manage my expectations and avoid triggers from recurring.

@TessDun Oh course we are affected by it, didn't mean to imply otherwise. It can hurt. I only meant we shouldn't rely on others too much. Best luck on that, to you.

Furthermore - if we're talking about the on-line realm. I know some who have gone on hiatus, pretend to be gone but they are still sneaking around watching. I've seen them posting on another site. One's close to them are hurt thinking they are ignoring. That is utter crap behavior.

@summersong I would love to burn bridge but can’t.

@TessDun totally understand.. and it’s very easy to get loose lips from the pain too.

@NoGamesTolerated Yes and if uncontrolled the aftermath is not so helpful and can make one feel worse

@TessDun oh absolutely

@SW-User I’m currently suppressing waiting to explode 😣

@Keepitsimple It’s always for the best to preserve one’s peace

@Stereoguy It’s hard when equal love and acceptance are barely present

@SW-User Yes parting ways emotionally will be my best defense now