What do you do when some people that are important to you make you feel less lovable and important?

@Fairydust 😐😐

@Fairydust I hope I could without appearing like the bitter villain. What makes it hard for me is that I care so much this I should stop since my care seems unrequited

@TessDun Feelings don’t work that way, I don’t think…

@TessDun it’s hard and I do believe the person that cares the least has the control, if they carry on hurting you, it’s time to walk away. I’m not afraid to tell people how I feel, so it’s their choice. Some people are just not worth the pain. Cut them out. ✂️ Close the door on them lol 🚪 you have to look after yourself. No one else will.

@Fairydust that’s true too… but does pain go away at will?

@NoGamesTolerated yes it does go away, they really aren’t worth having them in your life if they keep causing you pain. I’ve let a few people go and it’s freeing.
Work on your self worth, why do you allow people to treat you that way.

If someone came to you and said you have hurt them, would you change your behaviour or would you carry on hurting them, it’s simple really. People have a choice how they treat people. If it keeps being painful, remove them.
It’s best to have pain for a bit then to spend years going round in circles feeling like your nothing. 🥰😌

@Fairydust

Hold on my friend. They NEVER pull down my self worth! Never! * I love me! Totally and wholly love me! * My self esteem is very healthy…


I’m only saying pain does not go away because I say go away (I’m only speaking for me)….

Oh it WILL in time when I don’t feed it… and cut contact… (that is whenever needed).

Yes, I’d apologize and try my best to never hurt them again. Sometimes people are hurt unintentionally with frail egos and then I have to take notice and try to walk softly around them. And I’m speaking in general with people…

NOBODY makes me feel like nothing. They may make me feel like I mean nothing to them… but they absolutely never make me feel like nothing!!

🥰 🤗

@Fairydust Contrary to what many people here think, I’m a big softy when it comes to matters of the heart! I say what I think and am honest to a fault and some can’t or don’t know how to handle me … But at the end of the day I have to like me and live with me. And I try to treat people as I want to be treated. However I’ve never mastered making my pain go away immediately just because I tell it to. I wish I could… 😍

@NoGamesTolerated aw I replied to the wrong person lol.
It wasn’t aimed at you. 🥰✨

@Fairydust It’s ok.. read my last comment above… 🤗

@Fairydust Yes I am getting there slowly. The way I am treated will make me naturally get to that point. Unfortunately I cannot make myself physically distant, but I will just stop to be the superwoman and the rescuing hand. I will be passive and treat them the way they treat me, not pushing myself to be part of their lives.

@NoGamesTolerated aw I get that, it’s a lovely way to be, I’m the same 🤗

@Fairydust 🤗

@TessDun treating them the way they treat you, I did that with my ex and it wasn’t me, hurts you both.
Don’t let it turn you bitter. Best to keep your heart right and walk away.

@Fairydust absolutely

@NoGamesTolerated It’s hard to be soft-spoken when beaten to explain my side to them. So I avoid confrontation when feeling really hurt

@TessDun write them a letter 🤗

@Fairydust 😂Maybe a long text message in draft😉

@TessDun haha or write it and burn it ☺️

@Fairydust I probably will, also I am free to say everything I want ;) thanks for the idea 😁

@TessDun I hope it works out 📝🔥🤗