How about some old fashioned courtesy!

I think none of approached a site like this with expectation of the rules we live by in real life. Having said that, would it hurt to have some old fashioned courtesy?

Example. This week I spoke to someone whonwas fun and sexy and we had a very good couple of days chatting. She has subsequently ignored my messages, which I know she has seen as her green light is only on when she is there, she told me this. All of this is absolutely fine but I would rather someone said, I don't want to talk for a while...I hope you understand etc.

It's not really that difficult and take a short thirty seconds to type. Come on guys, be kind!

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SW-User

Internet...nobody has to do anything or be anything and many just don't deal with others like they would face to face.
What I see on this site alone is a huge reminder this isn't the life I am use to off internet.

Fluffybull · F

@SW-User Exactly. The "rules" of conduct in the real world can't be expected to be followed here. People come and go, I've had someone chatting on messages then they stopped, I didn't analyse it, it's not a disaster, it's just a brief social media contact.

Fluffybull · F

You can't take things so personally on here.

Justme264 · 70-79, M

@Fluffybull no we should n't ... but commom courtesy would be nice

Carazaa · F

I agree we have to be curteous but sometimes people get involved with another conversation or just fall asleep, etc.

And I think it is also courteous to not expect people to respond quickly and to jump to conclusions too fast. There is nothing worse in friendships when people get mad at you or possessive.

It is very attractive though to say something like. Hey I missed talking to you, or if a friend shares a positive feeling. That can increase interest.🙂

If someone is rude it can also help to ask "Are you mad at me? Did I do something to upset you?" No one is perfect, and we can all be more gracious and forgiving I think.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

In SO many places and ways courtesy seems a forgotten virtue.

ArishMell · 70-79, M

@ChipmunkErnie I am afraid so.

Maybe one of the problems is impatience.

So many of us have become snared by the relative ease, high speed, efficiency and reliability, and the spurious immediacy, of modern communications, etc. that we forget we cannot always have what we want immediately we want it by merely pressing [Enter] or seeing it in some on-line catalogue or time-table.

Then naturally but very regrettably fall into extending the same unrealistic expectations to our fellow people.

Rickichickie · 56-60, F

Be kind and reply to messages e.g.? Still waiting for your reply Mr. Byres. Lol

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