How Do You Trust Again After Being Cheated On and Used?

Give yourself time to heal. Give some thought as to what the red flags were that you either missed or ignored. When you meet someone new, don't assume they'll do the same thing as the previous one, or else the new relationship is already doomed to fail. Take the new relationship slow. Judge the person upon their actions and reactions. Use the brain in your head, logic, and don't allow your "little brain" in your pants to make your choices for you.

Remember not everyone is the same

Hard for me man. Like I have trust issues now.

I trusted women to end up in the trash. Yet they're happy and enjoying now. It makes me wonder what's wrong with me you know? Like I give my all and trust them to keep things upto a transparent level. Yet they fuck me up.

When I was cheated on the situation was complicated.

I knew it was happening & something seemed foul.

I eventually stepped in after a little talk with my gf.

She was being harassed by an old flame & he threatened her if she'd leave him again.


I fixed the situation.

That was a nasty 8 months out of my life... yes, I stayed with her for years.

Until she died from cancer. Yes, I married her.

She was my best friend.
And I seen the situation she was in too many times where an former love decides to return and use force to make them stay.

I have found I never can trust (again) the one who did those things. I also know I can trust someone else until given reason not to. I also know I need to really look at the type of person I may be putting my trust in. I haven't always chosen as wisely as I should have.

{@invictusindigo ] with great difficultly as your trust in people has been shattered basically . it maybe there but you need to be able to recover and built trust up again

Accept that it happened, and shockingly, the world didn't end.

Reevaluate your choice in people and be smarter the next time.

It just takes time. Others will fill in

well i wouldn't trust that person.

I certainly don't!
You can't become innocent after learning.
People might become trusted over time, but you have sex with them before that. It's a fact of nature. I can't choose to go back and become a screwable fifteen year old.

Most people find it difficult after leaving their cheater to trust a new partner. It’s easy to think others will only disrespect you how the previous person did. It takes time to build trust in general & more time after your trust has been taken advantage of