How do you personally stay calm while dating?

If you do that is. How do you just view it as, If it works out, nice, if not no biggie???
My mind overthink s, future tells, mind reads...😢 Then I just decline interest in me...I think what guy will ever stay with someone with as much anxiety as me? I feel pathetic, small and like they could have lots of other women who are better. But I REALLY want to beat this fear and feel CALM about dating. How did you?

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CestManan · 46-50, F

Dating and relationships are nothing but hassle. There is the ideal version we all dream of and the there is reality.

But for you - you do have a few things going in your favor that increase your value in the dating scene.

You are pretty. No one is going to be ashamed to be seen with you.
But more important - you are not lugging around kids nor grand kids.

Those two things will at least get your foot in the door.

So many women your age ARE lugging around kids and/or they just look terrible. Men are NOT interestd in those types of women.

Since you are pretty AND child-free, you are definitely a better catch.

I am not saying this "just to make you feel better", I am speaking God's honest truth.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@CestManan Thank you for your kind words 🌻 I'm not really thin though, kinda chubby Actually 😔 I just fear my anxiety is a deal breaker...they'll find someone who CAN do lots of social fun things or CAN travel .