How do you personally stay calm while dating?

If you do that is. How do you just view it as, If it works out, nice, if not no biggie???
My mind overthink s, future tells, mind reads...😢 Then I just decline interest in me...I think what guy will ever stay with someone with as much anxiety as me? I feel pathetic, small and like they could have lots of other women who are better. But I REALLY want to beat this fear and feel CALM about dating. How did you?

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KuroNeko · 41-45, F

I don't like it. 3 weeks in and my experience has been so awful that I'm not even looking anymore.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@KuroNeko Why so awful?

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Coralmist I was sexually assaulted on a date. The other guys I've spoken to have been either arrogant or really whiny and insecure. I've just come to realise that the dating pool is full of the worst kinds of desperate people who really shouldn't be looking for a relationship until they sort themselves out.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@KuroNeko Wow I'm sorry friend 😢 That's horrible. Was it recently?
I guess I should remember there's many guys dating out there that may have many flaws like me. That THEY could not be a "whole" person too that needs improvement. I only think I'm the broken one, that they're better than me, so I don't even date. Thanks for sharing that it's not all perfect people out there.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Coralmist my advice is to get right with yourself first. Nobody is going to fix anyone else. You don't want to bring problems to a relationship, as when the honeymoon period wears off it will all still be there waiting. It's hard to love anyone who doesn't love themselves.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Coralmist this happened just 2 weeks ago.