How do you personally stay calm while dating?

If you do that is. How do you just view it as, If it works out, nice, if not no biggie???
My mind overthink s, future tells, mind reads...😢 Then I just decline interest in me...I think what guy will ever stay with someone with as much anxiety as me? I feel pathetic, small and like they could have lots of other women who are better. But I REALLY want to beat this fear and feel CALM about dating. How did you?

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

A certain amount of nervousness is probably healthy--you care about the outcome--but after that, things should flow. If not, keep moving. It's essentially simple.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@uncalled4 Right. No I'm talking like I'm a pretty broken person and I feel what right do I even have dating when I can offer so little??

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Coralmist Dating isn't a privilege. It's something you do like going to the store. No resume required. Our quirks are part of who we are, and people fall in love over them.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@uncalled4 I guess I view my shortcomings as weak, not quirks. But maybe I need to reframe them. Thank you 🌿☀️

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Coralmist Exactly! :) Quit apologizing for who you are. None of us are perfect. I certainly don't apologize for jack shit. Watch how people respond when you no longer take crap from them.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@uncalled4 Thank you..it's just I have crippling anxiety, about certain things in my life, so it seems like I'm not worthy of love...like I'm offering a quarter of what others can. But I'll try to work hard at just ACCEPTING myself, even with feeling broken. Ty again 🌟🌻