How do you personally stay calm while dating?

If you do that is. How do you just view it as, If it works out, nice, if not no biggie???
My mind overthink s, future tells, mind reads...😢 Then I just decline interest in me...I think what guy will ever stay with someone with as much anxiety as me? I feel pathetic, small and like they could have lots of other women who are better. But I REALLY want to beat this fear and feel CALM about dating. How did you?

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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

I have never been on a date.

There have been times when I thought a woman was interested in me, and I got so nervous, even panicky. And of course then I think ahead, about logistics, and what would I have to change about myself? Would my whole life change?

I mostly just want to remain who I am, and share my life with another, and she can remain who she is. Of course she and I will change but I would want it all to be smooth and natural.

My life is so lonely and dull. The only dates I go on are with the ducks and geese at the local pond. They are the only ones who approach me. But they only want the food they think I have. And if I were a huge ear of corn, they would eat me alive.

Today I realized I was taking to myself while inside all day. Literally speaking my thoughts out loud. I think I am losing it.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@JoyfulSilence You're not losing it. Maybe people have to compromise on a few things here or there in a relationship, but certainly not your entire life ✨

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

@Coralmist Yeah.

I had a crush on a friend but she does nag me at times, which made me pause. I still love her, though. But she has a boyfriend. Sigh.