When you know someone is dying, do you ask their family if you can visit them?

Personally I feel like it puts them on the spot or on edge unless you were very close.

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2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

When my mother was dying and knew it was anyday we contacted family and close friends and told them they were welcome to see her one last time and was only one day and a few came by others couldnt I think others felt it was family time and didnt want to impose.

DoubleRings · F

@2ndtimeguy Well this is me in a way. They family texted me to say that she was not doing well and they are going to make her comfortable and she will hopefully be able to pass at home. I figured next few days she will pass and they were preparing me for a funeral. But it’s been a while now - over a month, and now I wonder if they were trying to say “hey now’s the time to see her if you want to” but they didn’t say that…

I just texted them to let them know I am thinking of them and nonchalantly asked if they or she needed anything like food, drink, company , errands? LOL.

Idk when my parents were passing they didn’t wanna see anyone

2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

@DoubleRings think that was kind and may encourage them to ask you to come by