Should you help someone that has done you wrong and hurt your feelings badly, when they have been in an accident and need help? My heart says yes, my gut says no. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Personally, I'd probably offer what help I could that maintains my personal emotional boundaries. The second helping someone else begins to take an unhealthy toll on me, it's time to back away because the situation is growing toxic. Whatever you choose, good luck.
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I mean, your anger doesn't have to turn to hate. If they're in serious trouble help where you can.
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Do you still care about the person? If so then yes. I’d always rather help someone - people make mistakes and bad choices but if you forgive them then you can’t continue to hold it against them. I’ve made bad choices and maybe not deserved help, but I’ve been so grateful that people did not give up on me
@SW-User I I definitely care, much more than I should. But he has a lot of issues that only he can resolve and I don’t want to be dragged back into that toxic environment. Being alone has its perks!
If your heart is saying yes because it hopes for anything other than the basic well-being of another human in distress, it might be better to let someone else do the helping. Sometimes an unpleasant personal history just creates stress that doesn’t help anyone.
@Mbingh01 You are a generous person that's why you want to help him. You know what. I was alcoholic too and I had an accident too which gave me shock too. But some support of people did made me feel better. However I continued drinking after that for a little while but then quit it completely.
Of course you would help. This is the Universe 's way of hopefully allowing them to make amends for what they did to you. To not help would probably bring the karma back on you.
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Always help. The world is full of too much pain as it is. It does not mean you have to get back into a toxic environment.
@Nayla no, but I know he would like nothing more than to be back in my life. His sister is there now to help, but she is leaving soon to go back home. P.s. he lives 4 hours from here.