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Pregnant and getting a lot of pressure from in laws to get together.. saying no until baby is born. Selfish?

I’m 20 weeks pregnant and already huge and going to bed early every night because I’m so exhausted. I have high blood pressure already and headaches..I’m at a bit of a loss because I have my husbands family who is wanting to plan family gatherings especially in a month fir Easter. I was completely honest and said I’m hanging on for the weekends for dear life that I probably won’t be attending any family events until after the baby is born. My sister in law responded with are you really going to be a hermit the rest of your pregnancy and I said yes it just takes a lot out of me and because of my work schedule I truly cherish anytime I have to rest (vs spending a 4 hour outing with them, I mean common really?).. am I being selfish I mean isn’t it understandable? Obviously I know Covid is getting better so it’s not the main reason but also in the back of my mind. I just would rather not go anywhere or see anyone until the pregnancy is over with. My husband completely understands and said it’s understandable. He supports me so much. Anyone have any advice? Is it selfish on my part?
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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
I understand both sides.

Having a loved one pregnant is a really exciting thing. Especially with this last year being such a lonely, boring, dreary one I understand family wanting to spend time together & see how you’re progressing etc. I think it’s likely coming from a place of happiness & love. However I don’t think they are considering your energy/ well being enough. I’m pregnant as well & I only just started feeling more myself. My husbands family arrives next week for a visit & we will share the pregnancy news. They live far so this week is the only part they will be able to be a part of. Sometimes being around people we love can actually give our mood a boost. Absolutely do whatever you feel is best for yourself. Rest is very important & you know what you need. I hope you feel better soon & maybe everyone can have some time together without draining you. 🌻💗😇