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Narc mom no contact sent thousands $ of gifts. Donated to charity. Will daughter resent me one day?

I haven’t had contact with my mom for almost a year now. She was physically and mentally abusive to me as a child. At one point CPS got involved because of all of the bruises. Had to go live with my dad. She’s always tried to exert control over me. And resented when I set healthy boundaries. She said a lot of awful things about me and my husband to and behind our backs. About my daughter as well. And to protect myself and truly our family I made the choice to go no contact. My brother has as well. I just can’t handle it, the stress. For Christmas my mom sent about 3k worth of very lavish, oversized extravagant gifts addressed to my child. We’ve made the choice to donate them to charity. I worry if this was the right choice. And if I should let my mom know so that she understands she won’t ever be able to manipulate our daughter with money. I wonder if my daughter will one day find out and then resent me. When that time comes I’ll tell her the truth but I wonder if that will be enough. Or if she’ll one day hate me for it. I feel like my brother and dad will be able to corroborate my stories.. Anyone have similar stories? Advice?
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No, your daughter should understand that you were protecting her, especially if you explain it as you have to us (assuming that’s necessary). Your mother’s trying to [b]buy[/b] absolution for abuse. 😞
forty7seventy4 · 46-50, F
@bijouxbroussard Yes, exactly. I second that her daughter will understand she's trying to protect her.