You think it's appropriate to reward the quality/imagination of a child's costume with different candies?

Like if it's a cheap ballerina costume just a tiny sweet. But if it's Frodo Baggins complete with hairy feet-shoes they get a toblerone.

Some lazy kid who only put on a cape over his normal clothes gets a cough drop.

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Grateful4you · M

Hell no, the last mentoned has his own special skills, in fact may end up having to support you in old age. What you are considering is borderline child abuse.

PolyamorousPlaymates · C

@Grateful4you How is this child abuse? I'm giving them candy. The degree of which depends on them.

Grateful4you · M

@PolyamorousPlaymates It's a psychological reasoning, kids are much more aware/perceptive than we think.

Look, I know you aren't a mean/abusive parent but he going to feel a sense of failure or at least feel less that the others, (Not to mention his siblings will likely laugh he got such a lousy cough drop.

Just please reconsider.

PolyamorousPlaymates · C

@Grateful4you You want to talk psychological? We tell our kids every day to NEVER take candy from strangers. Then devote a whole day and night to doing just that.

I know how perceptive kids can be. But they're also kinda stupid and will learn bad behaviors unless tempered by the parent/guardian.

They'll see others putting in less effort for equal reward. So they learn to live like this. As adults, they put in minimal effort and expect to be rewarded. The world doesn't work like that and now they don't know what to do.

@ViciDraco There'll always be excuses NOT to do something. Every opportunity is a chance to learn and teach. Failing to do so is to raise an ignorant child. That's my opinion.

Finally, I never once stated I'm going to do what I asked about. It was just a question I was thinking about and everyone else made assumptions.