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Want some unsolicited advice from an old man?

Probably not. But I think the reason why young people have so many relationship problems is the habit of texting.

When confronted by relationship problems, first off, you're bound to be reacting at an emotional level as most humans do. You need to try "tincture of time" to allow you to observe the FACTS objectively without the emotion. Give it a couple of days.

Secondly, try and resolve the problem face to face since communication is much more than words on a page. You have a whole other dynamic to base your outcome on.

Just saying from years of dealing with inter-personal relationships.

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SW-User Best Comment

Texting is the best thing ever for confirming dates/times, changing meeting places, checking whether someone is attending an appointment etc, sending payment reminders. But for sorting out relationship problems it's fraught with danger. It's so easy to be misinterpreted and for people to read between the lines or not gauge emotions etc. There comes a point where talking face to face is necessary, the problem is many people including me find we've gone too far texting and should have met up earlier.

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Grateful4you · M

@SW-User In my years here and on EP this is a horror story that exceeds anything so far. I'm wracking my brain but there is nothing there but an echo. (I'm overly tired) I want to try and help somehow...

SW-User

@Grateful4you I don't know much of the details but i think all we can do for anyone is be a friend and also empathise if there are times that we can. I think that helps someone not feeling like they are quite so alone with it.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User I agree, just want to cover my bases and see if there is a glimmer of light here somehow. I have a "kind of" half assed plan.

Anonymartyr · M

True. I met a woman on a dating site a while ago. She lives a couple blocks away. After a whole month of talking on phone, mainly by text but had not met face to face. I dropped her without ever meeting her. She was that close to me but couldn't find half an hour to meet me in person over a whole month but can spend all day texting people.

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Anonymartyr · M

@Grateful4you I am rarely on here anymore since there is not much for me on this site or any "social" site. I get on here when I feel extra lonely but other than occupying some of my time, does little for me. I have nothing to talk about in my life as I can't have a life. I have my past experiences to talk about but then I get the nightmares again. Thanks again for the faith in me. Often I wish that I weren't so strong. I am tired of boredom and of suffering. I wish I knew what it is like to be loved by a person, in person rather than thousand of miles away. But even my wife was only using me for her self-esteem and I hardly knew my mother.

Grateful4you · M

@Anonymartyr A friend of mine is going to be looking at your posts, he is a good guy. In the meantime, I'm going to do some research on something this week. Don't get your hopes up, but I need to see if there is something that might work, it's a stretch we'll see.

Grateful4you · M

@Anonymartyr I'm not here that often either, sort of goes in spurts. I am going to "friend" you now, and like I said, going to be looking into something and hopefully it's not too far fetched.

cherokeepatti · 70-79, F

A lot gets lost in translation when you text or even post on social media. It’s better to speak face to face when communicating.

Miram · 31-35, F

I hate it that a lot people nowadays think it is normal to break up over text, or phone.

Grateful4you · M

@Miram I agree, and it's having serious long term psychological effects, which people don't seem to understand.

passingby8 · 31-35, F

Lol most of my relationships have been online through text

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passingby8 · 31-35, F

@Grateful4you What do you mean?

Grateful4you · M

@passingby8 A real physical encounter.

passingby8 · 31-35, F

@Grateful4you lmao I did,I went from stupid retarded relationships that lead to no where with guys I was probably never gonna meet online,to guys on dating sites who lived closer for that very reason.There was just still a lot of texting still involved lol

Spoiledbrat · F

I think most people are selfish and self centered. They just don’t see it. They think they’re just enjoying themselves or “having fun”.

JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M

Shut up ol man! 😠🤜👴🏻

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JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M

@Grateful4you sorry grandad 😇

Grateful4you · M

@JovialPlutonian I forgive you sonny. 😜

JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M

@Grateful4you 😂😂😂

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