Want some unsolicited advice from an old man?

Probably not. But I think the reason why young people have so many relationship problems is the habit of texting.

When confronted by relationship problems, first off, you're bound to be reacting at an emotional level as most humans do. You need to try "tincture of time" to allow you to observe the FACTS objectively without the emotion. Give it a couple of days.

Secondly, try and resolve the problem face to face since communication is much more than words on a page. You have a whole other dynamic to base your outcome on.

Just saying from years of dealing with inter-personal relationships.

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SW-User Best Comment

Texting is the best thing ever for confirming dates/times, changing meeting places, checking whether someone is attending an appointment etc, sending payment reminders. But for sorting out relationship problems it's fraught with danger. It's so easy to be misinterpreted and for people to read between the lines or not gauge emotions etc. There comes a point where talking face to face is necessary, the problem is many people including me find we've gone too far texting and should have met up earlier.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User Exactly my point and believe me I speak from experience from a relationship I had on EP/SW for over 7 years. I almost ruined everything several times for the same reasons you just gave.

SW-User

@Grateful4you I'm sorry to hear that, but yes, texting can be a double-edged sword. It can start a great relationship but also end it. It takes a lot of skill to know when to move from texting to real life meet ups. And ty for BA.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User Do me a favor my friend, look at "anonymartyr" posts, I'm totally out of ideas.His situation is the worst I've ever seen here.

SW-User

@Grateful4you Sure thing, i'll go look now.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User Thanks, I really appreciate this!

SW-User

@Grateful4you That's ok, i'm always happy to talk to new people especially if i can relate in some ways in what they're going through.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User In my years here and on EP this is a horror story that exceeds anything so far. I'm wracking my brain but there is nothing there but an echo. (I'm overly tired) I want to try and help somehow...

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@Grateful4you I don't know much of the details but i think all we can do for anyone is be a friend and also empathise if there are times that we can. I think that helps someone not feeling like they are quite so alone with it.

Grateful4you · M

@SW-User I agree, just want to cover my bases and see if there is a glimmer of light here somehow. I have a "kind of" half assed plan.