Do u think I should have a baby before I get married ? 👦👧👶
Or
get married first then have a baby. I don't know. I kinda like it better the other way around. Because marriage is tough..nothing is guaranteed. What do you think. Baby first dammit. 😠
marriage is hard work. having a baby is hard work.
The only "upshot" is that as a man, you have an easier time walking out if you can't hack it as the system generally favours leaving the child with the mother (another issue in and of itself I won't get into here)
@Zonuss Also it is kind of sound reckless to me to decide they will be fine. You are taking it recklessly. The best parents that I met are those who question if they are doing good instead of assuming it out of convenience.
I do realize these are harsh words but I am sure you can handle it.
At least finish high school, get a full-time job and wait until age 21 to get married and have children.
Only 2% of people following this formula end up in poverty. Nearly 75 percent have joined the middle class (defined as earning around $55,000 or more per year).
But, I'm sure everything will work out just fine for you.
@Zonuss Hey Zone Boy - don't shoot the messenger! Brookings Institute is one of many that do not recommend having children outside of marriage. I mean, besides common sense.
@Budwick Like I said you have a small mind. You come from a shit hole. So I doubt you even know how people manage in a steady middle class family. My family has lots and property. We weren't built from welfare. We built it ourselves. 🙂
Baby first can work out, but I think it’s better for children to have the stability of parents who are committed to each other. I know not all marriages work out nowadays, but I think it’s better to carefully choose your partner, make the commitment and do your best.
It depends on your commitment to her. If you are truly in love her and both feel like with bringing a child into the world. I would say yes 👍. Give it a try. Sometimes it takes awile. Visit doctors. See if your sperm are active swimmers and if she is able to get pregnant and can carry a child. Both get green flags. Go for it. Anything else talk to the doctors and see what can or can't be done. Good luck.
