Oh no. I just want to cry for help

I woke up this morning and immediately started crying. I cried for a while until I started vomiting. I haven’t eaten since early yesterday and if it was up to me I wouldn’t have eaten at all. The heaves were painful, the bile tasted nasty. My hearts going to give out if I don’t fry my brains first

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Miram · 31-35, F

I'd talk to your wife if I could.

Anonymouslyyours86 · 36-40, F

@Miram she is no longer his wife nor wants to speak at all

Knucklez · 31-35, M

You can’t change her mind. This isn’t the first time I have hurt her the way I have. She’s just sick of it and sick of me@Miram

Knucklez · 31-35, M

@Anonymouslyyours86 we are still married, though I guess only technically. She said last night she doesn’t consider us together

Miram · 31-35, F

@Knucklez You need someone unbiased. You are both emotionally charged and anything either say can be taken the wrong way.

Knucklez · 31-35, M

She was very clear. There was no way I could have taken it the wrong way “I don’t know if I can be with you. I don’t consider us together anymore” those were her words @Miram

Miram · 31-35, F

@Knucklez

Do you really want to get her back?

And no, that doesn't mean it's over.

Anonymouslyyours86 · 36-40, F

@Miram well i think she does she doesn't want him anymore

Knucklez · 31-35, M

I’d do anything. I’m looking for anger management classes around my local area today. Therapy too. I have to show her I’m trying to be better. Maybe she will take me back in time, but I’m too short sighted to see it happening@Miram

Miram · 31-35, F

@Anonymouslyyours86 That'd be the second false assumption of yours.

Anonymouslyyours86 · 36-40, F

@Miram no it is not its pretty clear what she wants, he can't force in a marriage/ relationship she does not want, its not an assumption thank you

Knucklez · 31-35, M

And what would that be?@Miram my second false assumption?

Miram · 31-35, F

@Knucklez That's the hardest part besides overcoming separation anxiety. The anxiety you are feeling now is something She will experience and she will observe you even if she wants "no contact". As much as I hate to admit it initially she does feel the relief after expressing wanting to give up on the relationship. She is normal person and her action is out of desperation, and yes selfish but she needed it.

You have to change the things in you pushing her away. And you have to work on yourself and your life. You are already willing and that's half the path. People are attracted to those that make them feel secured and good.

It is not over.

Miram · 31-35, F

@Knucklez Not yours, annastasia's. The first was that you are no longer married.

Knucklez · 31-35, M

I see that now@Miram