I got into a fight with my girlfriend last night while my

sister was visiting our apartment. My sister intervened and tried to calm things down but I still flipped. We were arguing because she brought up a girl that she used to really, really like. The girl is an exotic dancer. She got upset because I called her a stripper. She stopped me and corrected me. My anxiety got the best of me and I got really upset. I told her I felt like she was protecting that girls feelings over mine. I don't know why it bothers me so much. My depression and anxiety has gotten so bad over the past few weeks and I have no control over it. Last night I told her that I couldn't be with someone who I felt like doesn't care about my feelings. I broke up with her while I was drunk. FOR THE 3RD TIME THIS WEEK. This morning she told me she doesn't think we should get back together. I understand I wouldn't want to be with someone like me either. I am BROKEN. I've been through a lot like being sexually abused my whole childhood, having a very abusive mother, and trying to learn to cope with my PMDD anxiety and depression. It's a lot to put on someone. So, I get it. I'm still sad though. She left our apartment this morning to run some errands. She asked me help find a roommate to split the place with her. I said I would. I took a few things in a bag and I left. I just wish I didn't have this bad depression and anxiety beating me down.

ItsJustMe3684 · 36-40, M

It happens, I am sorry you are going through it. Unfortunately I lost the love of my life because of this. Do yourself a favor and work on yourself. I couldn’t stand the pain of being alone and went and found someone else. Well she wanted to get back together until she found out I had a new girl. Worse mistak of my life. Now the roles are reversed and I’m dealing with the old me and I’m trying to escape. Karma I guess. I feel for you and hope everything works out.

ItsJustMe3684 · 36-40, M

Give her space and get yourself right. It might take a month it might take a year. If you truly love her give it time. Maybe check in to make sure she is ok in a few weeks. I do understand the reason you got upset but you need to question if that’s your issue or if it’s a relationship issue. Anxiety causes overthinking. If she has never given you a reason to not trust her then you are wrong. Shit I’m straight but I can admit when a man is attractive. Me and my ex wife used to check out women together all the time she knew I would never dream of cheating. I couldn’t tell you how many strippers told me they loved my wife. Hell she used to have strippers tipping her lol.

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The anxiety and depression are your things to work on; I have them to so I do feel you on that battle in yourself.

With family, for me, it's really easier for me to learn they are who they are, and whoever they may be (I do know them relatively well though they surprise me sometimes) just learn to accept them as they are. Almost any other approach creates tension and hostility. It's natural, they hold your opinion close to their hearts and react emotionally when you disagree.

I don't know if this helps, but I hope it does.