So, this isn’t necessarily a legitimate question. But I’d like to vent a little for anyone willing to read and offer insight or opinions. I’m on a dating site called Plenty of Fish, it’s not always bad. It’s good for talking with people you normally wouldn’t come across. But some people are just terrible for no real reason. A guy messaged me on there the other day, and seemed nice enough. I wasn’t that interested in him romantically, but he seemed decent so I didn’t mind seeing where it’d go. He followed me on Instagram and further messaged me there. Today he made some comment about marrying me, to which I responded saying “I’ll assume that a joke.” He told me that it was and said something like “do you not know sarcasm?” as if I was stupid. I explained that sarcasm isn’t easy to convey through text - you can’t hear tone and read facial expressions. Anyway, it snowballed and he got all upset. I noted that I know what I’m talking about - I am four years into an English degree, after all. He then told me I was full of myself and would be single forever, and even said something about how all English majors are terrible people. I tried to wish him well and end the conversation, but he just wouldn’t stop. After four or five “good lucks” from me, he finally blocked me. And then messaged me on POF - further trying to demean me as a person. Finally, he blocked me there too. It’s worth noting that this wasn’t some eighteen year old kid, or even someone in his twenties. He is thirty two and acting like this. Naturally, I’m upset - who likes to be insulted by random people online? But I see how stupid it is. Even still, I felt like venting this all out. Something about it helps. It’s already been a yucky day, this didn’t make it any better. I’ll include a screen shot to better illustrate the situation. What do you guys think? Is this actually normal anymore? I don’t think I did anything wrong, and I tried to handle myself well. But I don’t know.
Thank you to everyone who has commented (and those who may after I post this). I didn’t expect to get so many, but I am genuinely greatful for all the kind words and insight. I know that this guy can’t possibly be all there. Normal, decent people just don’t act like that. And I hope he doesn’t seriously hurt anyone and gets some sort of help. But in the moment it’s easy for me to feel bad about myself because of it. Im not fishing for compliments - i promise - just talking about it helps me process and get over it. Honestly, I started to feel better while I was typing, before my thoughts even became public. To anyone who offers comfort and insight on posts like this - posts anyone makes to ease a struggle and vent - thank you for doing that. It’s people like you that make this world okay to live in. If the world was full of guys like this, no one would want to live here. They cause too much heartache and try to hurt too many people. So thank you all for spreading kindness. I - and anyone else you’ve helped - genuinely appreciates it.
He should be banned. I'm trying POF myself, but I think my honesty is hurting me. I tell them I'm at best 60% 'catch' and 40% 'rescue'. Sensible ladies probably run the other way when they see that. I'm not good at dating sites!
"Peter Pan seeks Wendy" Irresponsible- impulsive man child seeks caretaker for undivided attention, enabling, and ego stroking.
Just kidding. I'm not that bad, but I always wondered what would happen if I wrote something completely facetious like that.
You were definitely way too nice. You should have just blocked sooner. A lot of weird people on POF. I call it “ the trailer park of dating sites. You should try Bumble. Guys can’t message you there unless you message them first
You know, for a vast majority of people, it seems that we are single because we haven't found the right one just yet, however every now and then you find someone that shows very clearly why they are single, and why they will always remain single.
I am on it as well and it has gotten really bad since Craigslist shut down there personal ads section all I get is half or fully naked women that look like they are 16 I have complained to POF doesn’t do any good
My advice..get off of online dating or meeting people online, its not natural and can lead to so many problems from not actual face to face interaction
Multiple trade skills certificates? In what exactly? (Not trying to demean you exactly I'm just really curious) also that guy is one hell of a dick. Just because he can't get your pussy doesn't mean he has to pull a tantrum like a 12 year old
@KatieKatze I'm 20 but I am a skilled automotive mechanic with 3 ASE's on my belt plus I a lover of nature and conservation plus I love to dabble in history of then parks specifically Disney world
Well, that doesn’t mean every twenty year old should have a list of credentials. I’m knowledgeable in plenty of things (philosophy, foreign language, history, etc.), but the only thing I can prove through a written record is my university transcript for an English education major.
Ok please don't be offended by this im not saying this to offend you but when you join sites like these and dating sites you are opening yourself up to God knows what you have no clue what kind of people you will meet or how they will interact with you or towards you expect anything and don't be surprised by anything otherwise you will likely be very disappointed
Sounds like [b]he’s[/b] the one likely to be alone. He’s the oversensitive one. You handled it the best that it could’ve been, with someone spoiling for a quarrel. 😒
I was never like this when I was on POF. Yet I got very little interaction with women on there. I think you need to be an absolute douche bag to be successful with online dating
next time, at least remove the persons' names from the screen-caps … i mean you wouldn't want someone taking screen-cap of your name … and then showing it on the internet. peace be with you.
@puck61 there is, toxic masculinity refers to other behaviours like men always needing to be in charge and not show emotion. They're related but not the same.
