So, this isn’t necessarily a legitimate question. But I’d like to vent a little for anyone willing to read and offer insight or opinions. I’m on a dating site called Plenty of Fish, it’s not always bad. It’s good for talking with people you normally wouldn’t come across. But some people are just terrible for no real reason. A guy messaged me on there the other day, and seemed nice enough. I wasn’t that interested in him romantically, but he seemed decent so I didn’t mind seeing where it’d go. He followed me on Instagram and further messaged me there. Today he made some comment about marrying me, to which I responded saying “I’ll assume that a joke.” He told me that it was and said something like “do you not know sarcasm?” as if I was stupid. I explained that sarcasm isn’t easy to convey through text - you can’t hear tone and read facial expressions. Anyway, it snowballed and he got all upset. I noted that I know what I’m talking about - I am four years into an English degree, after all. He then told me I was full of myself and would be single forever, and even said something about how all English majors are terrible people. I tried to wish him well and end the conversation, but he just wouldn’t stop. After four or five “good lucks” from me, he finally blocked me. And then messaged me on POF - further trying to demean me as a person. Finally, he blocked me there too. It’s worth noting that this wasn’t some eighteen year old kid, or even someone in his twenties. He is thirty two and acting like this. Naturally, I’m upset - who likes to be insulted by random people online? But I see how stupid it is. Even still, I felt like venting this all out. Something about it helps. It’s already been a yucky day, this didn’t make it any better. I’ll include a screen shot to better illustrate the situation. What do you guys think? Is this actually normal anymore? I don’t think I did anything wrong, and I tried to handle myself well. But I don’t know.
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Thank you to everyone who has commented (and those who may after I post this). I didn’t expect to get so many, but I am genuinely greatful for all the kind words and insight. I know that this guy can’t possibly be all there. Normal, decent people just don’t act like that. And I hope he doesn’t seriously hurt anyone and gets some sort of help. But in the moment it’s easy for me to feel bad about myself because of it. Im not fishing for compliments - i promise - just talking about it helps me process and get over it. Honestly, I started to feel better while I was typing, before my thoughts even became public. To anyone who offers comfort and insight on posts like this - posts anyone makes to ease a struggle and vent - thank you for doing that. It’s people like you that make this world okay to live in. If the world was full of guys like this, no one would want to live here. They cause too much heartache and try to hurt too many people. So thank you all for spreading kindness. I - and anyone else you’ve helped - genuinely appreciates it.
