When is it ok to use the n word

@33person With all due respect, that’s bullsh*t. You cannot sanitize a word that was often the last thing black people heard before being lynched, which often included being castrated or raped and hanged or burned alive as crowds watched and cheered. It can’t mean “friend” or “brother” after hundreds of years of being used to disparage and diminish someone’s humanity based upon the color of their skin. And as long as hate groups [b]still[/b] use it with that original intent, black people who use any form of it are spitting on the graves of our ancestors.

@bijouxbroussard I strongly disagree, just based on the principle that I see words as not being communication in and of themselves, but just tools for communication. You can use a rope to lynch someone or to play a game of tug of war. The problem isn't the n-word; it's the meaning being conveyed by the person using it. When a black person uses the word, it is widely understood by probably 98% of people that they do not mean it the same way as when Klansmen say it. When white people say it, it is widely understood that they are conveying hatred, contempt, and evil. I care about the meaning being conveyed, not the tools used to convey that meaning.

@bijouxbroussard alot of groups so that, because at the end of the day it is just a word. Transgender people now a days call themselves a Tranny. Because we took back the words that hurt us and made it positive. And i think it is a good idea, i hated when people would call me that but since I decided to brace the word it doesn’t work when others call me that. So what i am saying calling myself that slur made me less sad and kind of fixed my problem.

@33person You are what you call yourself. I’ll tell you what; you find a black man standing with his [b]mother[/b]. Try calling [b]her[/b] a “[b]n*gger[/b].

If he doesn’t attempt to stomp you into the ground, I’ll acknowledge that “it’s just a word and has no power”.
It’s a conversation I have with younger black people who don’t know the history behind the word. We can’t “own” it as the KKK still uses it—and why would we [b]want[/b] to ? It’s like going around with a noose and calling it a necklace to try and reinvent that legacy. If the word wasn’t still powerful even the blacks who use it wouldn’t get upset when whites do.

I'm really enjoying reading this ... Good on all of you

@TuxedoMask Ummm, I'm black and would never ever call myself that heinous, derogatory word.

@TuxedoMask Being transgendered and being BLACK is not the same thing. Or perhaps a transgendered black person would have to explain not being accepted for being black or LGBTQ.

Good for you, you don’t have And certainly won’t call you that. I was trying to explain why other black person do it

@SW-User Good for you. My niece doesn’t, either.

@TuxedoMask Are you black ?

@TuxedoMask I've never heard a black person call themselves the actual "n" word.

Hahahahhahahahhaha, why do ask? So you can say I can’t talk for ANY black people? 😌

With an a or er same word to me i have seen many black person say it with an a.

@TuxedoMask Not for me and my family, that's for sure.

@bijouxbroussard That ship has sailed. I'd say that except in moments when you're running from your life, you shouldn't let the KKK control any aspect of your life. They're a bunch of morally degenerate, hate-driven terrorists, scared of everything and everyone, powerless without guns and torches and rope, got nothing to be proud of so they pretend their lack of melanin is an accomplishment.

I don't call anyone a n*gger. I am white. If I call someone a n*gger, then the message transferred from my brain to theirs is, "I believe you should be either out of this land or dead. I want all your kind dead or gone." I don't want to communicate that to anyone. Everyone who does has serious issues.

When a black person calls a friend a "nigga," the message transferred from their brain to their friend's is, "Hey, buddy. Friend of mine who is black, like me, who knows how it feels to be black like me."

People are upset when whites use the word because we have established that whites using the word mean "I believe you should be either out of this land or dead. I want all your kind dead or gone," as much as we've agreed on the meaning of the word "lamp." People are upset at white people for irresponsibly transferring a message of hatred and evil from their brain to someone else's.

@TuxedoMask Basically. You may know what someone [b]told[/b] you their reasoning was. I remember when it started and some foolish people claimed it was a way of “taking back the word”. It was never OUR word. And like I said, if there was no power in it, white people wouldn’t be getting beaten up for using it.

If you get triggered by a word, a word. Then that’s an unstable way to live your life. HAahah, I’m so glad I’m not a whiny teenager anymore who thinks the world owes me for my sensitivity and balls deep in this privilege game were i literally tell people not to say a word. @bij, it’s not a healthy way to live life, much better when your here in the real word.

@33person That’s a weak excuse. You (general “you”) are what you call yourself. It makes no sense to adopt the name used to dehumanize you and then complain about being dehumanized.

@bijouxbroussard See, to me, it's important to understand what people are calling themselves when they call themselves "niggas." It's not the same as what white people are calling black people when they call them "n*ggers." I think all humans have the right to complain about being dehumanized unless they are terrorists or, in some other way, a threat to humanity.