If you were me...?

I am a anitsocial person who is over slightly over weight. Where I work the people criticize me and I have been bad for business I don’t know if I am going to get fired everyday I wake upo worry I am also trying to get into college. When I first started work I was a laughing stock to everyone even the customers. Now people hardly come here when it’s my shift my employees shun me as I shun them back for their rude remarks behind my back (including my boss)I am worried it will be like this forever. I can’t quite just yet I have bills. This guy I liked here I wanted to make him my friend. He is a ladies man and a great talker. He has been here the longest and makes me feel like crap the most. He use to like me but I am so quiet and fat he now shuns me away. And also has other following his footsteps in shunning me unless I talk about something interesting they shun me. I almost killed myself one night when a customer came in talking about how fat I was... I can’t even with this job idk what to do other than give up which is what everyone is waiting for.

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I'm going to take a different approach here. Given your age, assuming that IS your age, you may have something medical happening. For example, a disorder called PCOS which completely throws your body out of balance and makes weight loss very difficult. That being said, if you don't like your job, the only one who can change that is you! Raise your head up, be proud of who you are, for others to love you...you have to love yourself first!

Scarlet5 · 26-30, F

If I were in your situation, I think that I would work on weight loss, fitness, and health more. But it’s easy to say that when I don’t know the whole story.
I hope your coworkers learn to mind their own business and worry about themselves because they are the real problem here.
I might suggest looking for a new job too cause working with people like that sounds toxic.
But what I don’t understand is [i]how[/i] are you “bad for business”?
And don’t worry about assholes saying rude things about your weight, they aren’t worth it. I know it’s hard not to though sigh But whatever you do, do it for yourself, not for others. Focus on self improvement and health, physical and mental

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Scarlet5 · 26-30, F

Yup, same.
I also have both of those problems and after some research (that I did months ago), I concluded that the “not knowing how to put thoughts into words” thing is likely something called Expressive Language Disorder. And the blank mindedness (if not from ELD) is possibly a symptom of ADD or ADHD (in my case, ADD).
I’m not saying that [i]you[/i] have either of those but it’s something you can look into.

I’m telling you this because for me, knowing that there was (and is) a reason why it’s so hard for me to communicate with other people, has [in a way] helped me cope with it.

Do you have this problem with family and/or people you’re comfortable with, as well?
If you don’t, it could just be Social Anxiety and a lack of social development.

Either way, it can be helped with speech or cognitive behavioral therapy. I, personally haven’t tried either myself. @Tiffany654300

Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

Thanks I will look into it@Scarlet5

Scarlet5 · 26-30, F

No problem at all. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you @Tiffany654300

Earthwrap · 41-45, M

Most people are so stuck in their own heads and worrying about their own problems they aren't as critical or noticing of others as you might think.

unknownpoetx · 36-40, M

@Earthwrap that's inaccurate. judging others is natural and unconscious and it happens all the time. there isn't anyone that sees her that doesn't think she's fat. in fact that's the very first thing it comes to mind.

Earthwrap · 41-45, M

@unknownpoetx I don't think so but even IF they did, most people have so much of their own shit and problems going on people can judge them right back so who cares. That's the point.

unknownpoetx · 36-40, M

what does "slightly" mean?
why people criticize you? why are you bad for business? where are you from? what is your job?

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Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

Correct I am horrible at math hat is why I am going to school@unknownpoetx

unknownpoetx · 36-40, M

@Tiffany654300 not using metric units it's bad. going back to school? seems like you are in the way to achieve all your goals. losing weight, improving your education. there's nothing to worry about. you will probably get fired but you can always find another job. start looking for one now and don't quite your current. and congratz

Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

You very real in your words I am thankful though I don’t think I will get fired just yet until they can find a replacement I live in a small town next to a school and work a night shift. Put I will be if it stays like this to this rate.@unknownpoetx

celine211 · 22-25, F

First of all you're not antisocial (i hope), you're asocial
Second can i ask what you do? and why did the guy suddenly turn against you if he liked you in the beginning.

Third start looking for another job..i'm not saying quit but look for another one in the mean time.

If you feel like taking right now Pm me

Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

I think the guy found out and got disgusted.@celine211

celine211 · 22-25, F

@Tiffany654300 found out what?

Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

That I liked him everyone kinda knew.@celine211

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Tiffany654300 · 26-30, F

You would quit even if this job was your only income?@waleskinder

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celine211 · 22-25, F

@waleskinder Yeah but that's not the point..money is the prob as always

Earthwrap · 41-45, M

Here is a really cool summit about health and this weekend it's free.
https://www.therealskinnyonfat.com/episodes/replay-weekend-guide.html

And I blocked that other guy and you should as well.

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