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Would you stay with your spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend if they cheated on you and swore they would never do it again?

SW-User
No. I would never be able to trust them again and it would eventually cause more problems. If he was late, or I couldn't get a hold of him when I should've been able to, I would think the worst. So even if he actually NEVER did it again, I wouldn't trust him and that's not fair to either of us.
Shawnkautzman1 · 51-55, M
@SW-User i always think the worst I'm the same way.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
That's a really tough one.
I truly don't know.

I left my husband of 20 years for cheating, but that was kind of different
It had been going on for years by then.

I have to say, at this point, I would not be able to get past it and stay in the relationship.

How about you?
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
My first husband started having an affair when I was pregnant with my son. Although I had my suspicions, I found proof when my son was 4 months old.

I packed his shit (well immediate needs) in garbage bags and put the kids in the car, drove to where they both worked, and dumped his stuff on the sidewalk.

So, my answer to your question is hell no.
I am lousy with 2nd chances ... but have met many wives that did things they honestly regret ... so, I guess it would be reasonable for forgiveness.
SW-User
@questionWeaver I could forgive, but the trust would be ruined.
Trust is essential
SW-User
@questionWeaver Yes sir.
FrostBorne · 31-35, M
Yes, I would. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone deserves a second chance, as long as the person in question is truly remorseful and makes a good effort in repairing the relationship.
MissMoon · 26-30, F
The logical side of me is saying yes but I'm an emotional person so I think I would try to forgive but eventually end the relationship 🤷
Shawnkautzman1 · 51-55, M
@MissMoon I'm also a emotional person.
Spica · 31-35, F
No. I can’t tolerate cheaters. I left my ex because he was cheating with me on his fiancée. I was clueless.
Shawnkautzman1 · 51-55, M
@Spica I'm so sorry it happened to me too.
Shawnkautzman1 · 51-55, M
@Shawnkautzman1 it felt like a stab in the heart. 😞
getmeouttahere · 36-40, F
Yea but they only get one chance
indyjoe · 56-60, M
It's really hard to say...but I seriously doubt it because I've heard that before and was made a fool of. I don't worry about it though, because I also have serious doubts that my wife would ever do that to me.
Datdudeblack · 36-40, M
depends on her reason and how honest she is about what happened. if i found out and it was a controllable mistake. no i wouldnt.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
That would depend on the quality of the relationship... We're all human and screw up at times
Depends on the relationship, how they cheated, and what they say to apologize.
Did they confess, or was it hidden..that's also important too.
Gentlemickey · 70-79, M
I never even cheated... just innocent flirting. If I wanted to stay, I had to accept 3 months in chastity !!
SW-User
I've given people second chances and 99% of the time it ended with me regretting it. So no.
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Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M
Got burned once like that.... well twice if you count the forgived time
Shawnkautzman1 · 51-55, M
Yes. it never worked out it happened a second time and it was over.
LyricalOne · F
Probably not but I’ve learned never to say never.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
No that would be just too hard to get over🙁
No once is already too much
JK7452 · 26-30, F
It depends on how they cheated on me
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JP1119 · 36-40, M
I don’t know, I kinda think I would.
It’s complicated.
no. cheaters be liars.. f em
BehindHerTears · 31-35, F
No way in hell.
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Ajz59852 · 36-40, M
Xena1234 · 51-55, F
Lots of variables. It mostly would depend whether or not I [b]believed[/b] it wouldn’t happen again, and if trust could be regained.

 
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