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Gillian · 46-50, T
I only got my driver's license when I was 40. Okay, I did have a license for a motorcycle before but that is not the point here.
Everyone has their reasons for wanting to or not wanting to get their license. For me, it was a couple of things. Not having good friends to encourage me. My parents not even bothering. A string of bad driving instructors. A corrupt driving system and officials in my dangerous home country. Fear of failing?
Everything went smoothly when I got it two years ago. I got it in a different country. Safe, great teacher, pleasant test. Even though the public transport was excellent since leaving my home country, yeah there was a need to learn how to drive. I haven't driven since I got my license though because there's no need to and no way I can have a car here, but it's nice to have it.
Everyone learns and does things at their own pace.
Everyone has their reasons for wanting to or not wanting to get their license. For me, it was a couple of things. Not having good friends to encourage me. My parents not even bothering. A string of bad driving instructors. A corrupt driving system and officials in my dangerous home country. Fear of failing?
Everything went smoothly when I got it two years ago. I got it in a different country. Safe, great teacher, pleasant test. Even though the public transport was excellent since leaving my home country, yeah there was a need to learn how to drive. I haven't driven since I got my license though because there's no need to and no way I can have a car here, but it's nice to have it.
Everyone learns and does things at their own pace.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
My best friend married at a very young age and her husband did all the driving. After almost 50 years of marriage, he died. She has always had a strong phobia when it comes to driving because her beloved older sister died in a car crash many years ago. Now her sister-in-law drives her once a week and the rest of the time she gets around her neighborhood in a mobility scooter.
By the way...I spent years trying to get her to learn to drive. But I haven't mentioned it at all during the last 20 years or so.
By the way...I spent years trying to get her to learn to drive. But I haven't mentioned it at all during the last 20 years or so.
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@EmptyGirl2001 We are talking about a semi-invalid woman well into her 70s who has suffered from a severe phobia of driving for 56 years! Plus, she is quite happy and not limited by her current arrangement.
ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T
ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T
@Dianna You're welcome?
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@ShaythePanTransMan There are some very good driving schools in which the cars they use have two steering wheels. Also, the instructors are professionals who pride themselves on teaching nervous people to drive. Scrape up the cash and go to one of these schools; find one that has been in business for a long time.
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Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
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Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@EmptyGirl2001 I know, maybe I could do it with something much faster and stronger😃
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@SW-User I think the rant part comes from the fact that for some non-driving people, not driving a car is part of an entire co-dependent or anti-independent outlook that in general limits their lives greatly; correctly or not, this may be how she perceives her friend refusing to learn to drive out of timidity and fear of venturing out in life.
I think she has taken her rant a little far here and I have just posted a defense of my long time friend preferring not to drive because she is contented with things as they are for her. There have been a few times in my life, and here on this site, when I have urged people to learn to drive because I thought it would be, for them, a way of expanding their world and their choices particularly when people are putting up with a bad or outright abusive situation from someone due at least partly to lack of transportation. In those cases, learning to drive would be part of some badly needed independence and power.
However, I do agree with you that, ultimately, it is a choice made by the individual, not pressure from another person, even a close well intentioned friend.
I think she has taken her rant a little far here and I have just posted a defense of my long time friend preferring not to drive because she is contented with things as they are for her. There have been a few times in my life, and here on this site, when I have urged people to learn to drive because I thought it would be, for them, a way of expanding their world and their choices particularly when people are putting up with a bad or outright abusive situation from someone due at least partly to lack of transportation. In those cases, learning to drive would be part of some badly needed independence and power.
However, I do agree with you that, ultimately, it is a choice made by the individual, not pressure from another person, even a close well intentioned friend.
Ryanoliver2011 · 26-30, M
I agree with you
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Rickg · 31-35, M
But everyone is cut out to drive
I’d rather they be honest
I’d rather they be honest
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Rickg · 31-35, M
Yikes
Is it a bad time to say that I meant not everyone is cut out
Is it a bad time to say that I meant not everyone is cut out