Why don't some people want to learn to drive? they need to.

I mean who doesn't wanna learn to drive? The power, the independence and....you don't have to depend on people to take you places or depend on transportation.
My best friend doesn't wanna learn to drive. She has been wanting to learn to drive for a long time and NOW she doesn't want to? What?! I'm confused. I was like, "You've been WANTING to learn to drive for a long time but now you wanna back down on that? You're such a coward. You can't depend on your parents or public transportation anymore. Our parents are getting older." My got my permit and I've been taking driving lessons. I tried to convince her to join me but she refuses. My guy friend told her she will regret it. Who wants to be 30 and don't know how to drive. People 30 and after that don't have their license are LAZY, unless they have a medical condition or a disability that effects that. My best friend is using autism as an excuse. I cut her off and said, "Stop using autism as an excuse. Stop that shit! We can learn. No excuses."

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SW-User

Such a massive rant over a decision your “friend” is perfectly entitled to make lol 😂

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@SW-User I think the rant part comes from the fact that for some non-driving people, not driving a car is part of an entire co-dependent or anti-independent outlook that in general limits their lives greatly; correctly or not, this may be how she perceives her friend refusing to learn to drive out of timidity and fear of venturing out in life.

I think she has taken her rant a little far here and I have just posted a defense of my long time friend preferring not to drive because she is contented with things as they are for her. There have been a few times in my life, and here on this site, when I have urged people to learn to drive because I thought it would be, for them, a way of expanding their world and their choices particularly when people are putting up with a bad or outright abusive situation from someone due at least partly to lack of transportation. In those cases, learning to drive would be part of some badly needed independence and power.

However, I do agree with you that, ultimately, it is a choice made by the individual, not pressure from another person, even a close well intentioned friend.