TW - August - 16yrs old - he/they - Repost from 4/27/23 - I'm not sure how to feel about how my mom used to do things to me because of my chest binder

For context I'm trans therefore I bought myself a binder at 14ish with my mom's permission. It was my money and everything I just couldn't order things online without a parent knowing. A while later (about a year) she found out and started commenting and telling me to take it off. I did when she asked, but l didn't feel okay going to school without it on. She then began yelling and scrutinizing me for wearing it (tbh I'm used to it from her though/verbally abusive stuff), ofc I took it off and tried to avoid her in the mornings off to school as best as possible. Eventually, her solution was every day until I stopped wearing my binder entirely because of this, whether I wore it or not, she would purposefully come up to me, grab (yes, quite literally grab) and feel around my chest for the binder. I told her aloud to stop and moved away as best as possible whenever this happened, because it made me very uncomfortable. It wasn't inherently sexual, but, at least in my eyes, you shouldn't grope someone's chest without consent. Her excuse for this type (there are other instances like this I've had with her) of thing was always, "I am your mother, I know what you look like, you literally came from me." I understand this, but now (16yrs old) I have severe issues with her contact in general, being able to set boundaries with partners, and touchy family members (unfortunately, my family has problems respecting boundaries in general which I have hundreds of stories when nobody did anything about it). Thankfully, my current bf is really careful with boundaries and even made a few for me<3. I just feel disgusting now days about telling people no, so I just don't and deal with anything by myself later. I think why I want to post this here, even though it was years ago, is to just get some opinions from others if I'm being over dramatic and if I'm allowed to put a label on it (sexual assault feels too heavy because others have much worse experiences, but I still don't know if it fits into this category). Thanks.