I Am a Child Abuse Survivor

If you want to fight back when people tell you that you're worthless, then the trick is to learn to know yourself. If you don't know who you are, then you can't really fight their ugly views of you, not with any real strength, because you keep wondering if maybe they might be right.

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SW-User

There is a lot of truth to this. The problem is, as you seek to get to know yourself, you often see yourself through the lens of abuse....seeing only the bad and not the good, or feeling the bad far outweighs the good. That is such a struggle.

BlueDiver · 36-40, M

Yup - nine steps forward and eight steps back. Eight steps toward thinking you've learned something about yourself when really you're just twisting things, and nine steps toward actually learning who you really are, then 16 steps back when you go off course for a while, and then 3 steps forward, and then 17 MORE steps back, but then you manage to figure something out that helps you go 38 steps forward. And at the end of the day, with any luck, you eventually get to look back and see just how far you've come.