A Bi-Polar Story

Maybe your wondering of Bipolar is correct... BUT the Person could also have BPD. Borderline Personality Disorder. It has four different types and there is a push/pull to escape real or perceived abandonment. One minute? They want to pull you close and they adore you. Then something trips that trigger and they want to push you away, devalue you and say harsh things. There's a book called "I hate you, Don't leave me" that explains BPD in depth by two mental health professionals.

It's one of my six mental illnesses and I show symptoms of all four types. Minus the manipulation of the petulant type, but double the lack of impulse control and risky behaviours of the self destructive type.

It's caused by trauma in childhood-- usually abusive environments and such, and because it can be misdiagnosed that young, they usually wait until young adulthood before diagnosing it.

I used to be the kind of person you're talking about. Thankfully years of therapy and self-development helped me heal from the trauma that was influencing that behaviour.

I am fortunate enough not to have had that experience but I can imagine that it hurts your dignity, your value and your question yourself about why people can be so mean and also judgmental.

I have done that to people and I feel awful about it. I try to only be nice these days.

I like the unipolar version of myself better. :)

So if words mean things, why doesn't "the sweetest compliment" hold the same water?

Sounds like liberals.