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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
I'm not trying to frighten you .
I had a similar experience ( trauma relationships ).
You can't erase something from your mind that was apart of your life . That's where the pain is coming from cause your fighting it .
Oh ya another thing .
You might answer this for me .
You said you were religious. I'm religious myself but not a fanatic. How come when you have that belief you end up getting social anxiety and depressions .
You made a very valid point
I had a similar experience ( trauma relationships ).
You can't erase something from your mind that was apart of your life . That's where the pain is coming from cause your fighting it .
Oh ya another thing .
You might answer this for me .
You said you were religious. I'm religious myself but not a fanatic. How come when you have that belief you end up getting social anxiety and depressions .
You made a very valid point
Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F
@riseofthemachine I think my social anxiety came from my upbringing ( heavily sheltered, overprotected and hearing a lot of stressful talks amongst the adults i lived with....my grandfather rarely allowed friends to come by after school too, etc.) and just brain chemistry changes when i was around 13-14. I had panic attacks as a kid but gradually got depression as a teenager. I got help around age 19 and things got much better. I do pray and at one point it helped me but sometimes the overwhelming feeling comes back especially when things aren't going good in my life.
thinkingoutloud · F
You are haunted by the conditions you are putting yourself under.
Also known as limiting beliefs.
You are also giving too much importance to a man who hasn't treated you with respect.
I believe you need help and support. If you can afford and find a good holistic psychologist, do so.
Also known as limiting beliefs.
You are also giving too much importance to a man who hasn't treated you with respect.
I believe you need help and support. If you can afford and find a good holistic psychologist, do so.
Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F
@thinkingoutloud Thank you, I'm not able to afford one rn but my friend did put me on to a therapist to talk to but even there I'm having difficulties visualizing my future/ what I want ( one of the tasks i've been given). But i am still trying.
Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F
@Allelse I'd like to be at that stage
Reflection2 · 41-45, M
I think keeping your ex in your life is a big mistake. I am guessing it is because you're lonely. The fact that the friend you slept with is in a messy situation seems to be making this seem a pattern for you. That is, picking situations where you aren't or can't be fully valued. Sometimes we have to go through the lonely periods recognising that we have worth. It sounds like your religion could be a source of comfort to you, but you appear to be undermining that by unrealistic expectations on yourself and allowing the past to hold too much power. If I was you, I would be examining the source of low self esteem
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I know this is all unsolicited advice and I don't know you, so take it as you will
Be well
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I know this is all unsolicited advice and I don't know you, so take it as you will
Be well
Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F
@Activitykittens Thank you for your input. My ex did tell me to love myself" once. I truly don't know why i'm like this but right now I can say I'm fully alone. Only family members i talk to now and then, it's depressing but what to do... Your advice makes a lot of sense.
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M