How do you really heal from past trauma

As I sit here I reminisce my younger days how I was bullied all the way into high school and even after that, I never graduated but got my ged and even changed my name . it was so bad and then as I reached my adult days people take advantage of me . Iv come across people making fun of me, taking money from me abusing me emotionally. I dont get it, I’m so nice and I try to be stern especially nowadays I don’t even look at people in their face , I just made bad decisions all around . I just want to feel strong so now can take advantage of me or push me around. Nowadays people are a bit more careful around me because of my demeanor, I’m just I hate that I let people do that me , im tired of being such a nice person. I know that comes with time and working hard to earn respect.

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Shakealot · 26-30, F

Idk how I will heal. I'm just trying to keep myself busy. Finding things to do.

LadyGrace ·

@Shakealot I will tell you the same thing I told the poster:

Now you have learned what you don't want in your life and you can press forward with this new found knowledge. The lesson here is also tell yourself the truth. Always tell yourself the truth because the truth does set you free and now that you know the truth, you have the powerful tool of knowledge and experience, so don't look back, you're not going that way! Looking back will only serve to keep you in that frame of mind and place. You can't go forward if you keep looking in your emotional rearview mirror. I can't say it enough. Always tell yourself the truth because that will untangle confusion and keep you on the straight and narrow. Now you have taken back your power and never let anyone abuse it again. Ask God in prayer to heal you and your mind. He will lead you and guide you in all truth. Pray daily for spiritual strength and don't dwell on the past at all. It's called the past for a reason; we're not supposed to go there again. And if you go back again, you will suffer 10 times worse because you have allowed yourself to be victimized again. Love and respect yourself enough to make sure that you have the respect you deserve. It's not what we lose in life. It's what we learn, and do with what we have left, that counts. Don't allow yesterday to steal Joy from today. Start fresh and new and don't look back and you'll do fine. Never allow anyone to place value on your life. That is not their place. Look forward in strength and courage because that is what you were made to do and you already have the tools to do that. All you have to do is exercise those tools in your life.