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Have you feared of becoming your dad?

Not in a good way.

I am scared tbh. Although, I haven't completely followed his footsteps. He cheated on my mom and I'm not him in that aspect. But the liquor aspect of mine is a bit like him. I do have control of my liquor and I won't let it overpower me. But I never want to be him.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
I tried my hardest to avoid becoming anything like him, but as the years kept beating my down, I'm more like him than I ever imagined possible.

On one hand, it's like being punched in the gut to realize how much you've fallen short of your aspirations. But on the other hand, it's given me a lot more empathy towards him and I'm not so bitter as I used to be regarding my childhood.

I can still safely say that I'm a better person than him in a lot of ways, but I don't know that I want to keep living like this. It's like we're only capable of becoming the type of people who've left an impact on us, and I haven't had too many positive impacts
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@TinyViolins I understand that. I was taught by my mom that even a bad person has good qualities. Why not pick the best and discard the rest.

Well I'm not saying I'm a saint. I do have my flaws. I shouldn't be drinking in the first place but I do it to numb my feelings. Not a good coping mechanism. I guess I'll overcome it.

I really get your message tbh. Thanks for sharing your thought and experience on the same.
Miram · 31-35, F
Yes. For a long time that was my worst fear. He always said I am the one most like him.

And he was right in terms of rage.

But my life doesn't seem to reflect similar decisions to his.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Miram I understand this very well. I haven't taken decisions like him yet. But yes, I have his qualities.
SW-User
My Mom but I am nothing like her
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SW-User You're amazing 🤗
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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@jshm2 I just never wanted to be him. Of course, I do have his traits and I can't help it. But I'm trying to take the better half of him.
SW-User
No he has lots of qualities I wish I could have.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SW-User You have enough as is.

You're witty. You're an empath. You're smart. What else could one ask for?
Nanori · F
Becoming like my mom is one of my phobias
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@Nanori I'm sorry.
CBarson · 51-55
I sought randomness with which to answer this question, the hive mind if the world wide web replied with:
I have a lot of my dad’s personality. He’s an introvert, but he makes and keeps friends.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard He sounds like a delight.

Tbh from your past comments on this. He does seem amazing. Wish I had a dad like him.
Im quite like my dad already. Quiet.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@V00doo You're cool. Just so you know.
@Beatbox34 Thank you
SW-User
I become more like him everyday. Not a problem really. His only major flaw is alcoholism and I've already faced that myself.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SW-User You're on a good path my dude.

 
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