how do you deal with feeling 'insecure'

i get times of terrible anxiety, where i feel deep feelings of insecurity, where i think or worry ' what if this happens to me, what if that happens in the future?' like what if i ever lose my apartment for some reason and i'm homeless, what if something happens to our government or our country, or it gets under threat from a foreign power.......what if sometime in the future my benefits stop or something happens to the welfare system?

and other worries which flood my mind....i live alone, lived alone 20 years, my main support system is my mother, who lives far away, i'm 48 now and from the uk.

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HelloItsMeAgain · 26-30, F Best Comment

My goodness, I feel like I could have written this. Pains me, that you can relate to the level of anxiety I feel. Sometimes, my thoughts even keep me up at night.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@HelloItsMeAgain lovely to hear from you, sorry you have a similar problem too, it can be really hard to deal with deep insecurity, hopefully if i keep at it and trying, things will improve, and i hope the same for you as well, life's not easy now, again thanks for responding to me, all the best.

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

My insecurities primarily have been people-oriented. The product, I assume, of having been bed-ridden for four years in my pre-pubescent years and having to play catch-up on social skills with my peers ever since. A lot of people assume I am introverted and insecure as a result. Public speaking, having to respond to people in authority can be terrifying for me.

I have learned to turn it into just another challenge to overcome. Made it actually work to my advantage, because I became a better listener, learned to fully grasp and understand the situation rather than letting fear take over and start babbling. I guess it has worked, since I wound up with a career in PR, specializing in crisis communication, and dealing with those in authority all the way up and into the Board rooms. Where I was occasionally called a sandbagger, waiting to summarize what others had said before recommending strategies.

One of Henry J. Kaiser's favorite adages was "A problem is just an opportunity in work clothes". Focus on finding solutions rather than worrying about what might happen. Basically, the Serenity Prayer that 12-step programs beat into you.

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