I feel like this is an unpopular opinion,but

if you dont take care of yourself (mentally/physically), dont focus on growing as a person, dont put time and effort into your education, your career, your hobbies, your appearance , your relationships , how do you expect others to be romantically attracted attracted to you? As harsh as this sounds I imagine it to be true for most people that they would not want to date or be with someone who neglects themselves ,who needs others to take care of them , who drags you down one way or another. I just dont understand, how do you expect others to just want you when you dont want to spend time on yourself to begin with?

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

What does that have to do with education?

Oh, sorry, my bad, I read that wrong. 🤦‍♀️

PepsiColaP

@CrazyMusicLovereducation and human capital helps shape people in many ways especially socially and it is even largely capitalized today . And it doesnt have to be organised and paid education , it can be things like a general interest in reading ,arts and humanities , anything that literally keeps the brain healthy and active

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@PepsiColaP Yeah, sorry, I understand how you meant it now. I just read that wrong. Basically like "if you don't take care of yourself (mentally/physically), don't focus on growing as a person." 😅 At first I thought you meant one shouldn't make important decisions about their life before they put themselves together first and then it didn't make sense to me why you talk about relationships.
Yeah, I agree, one can't wait for someone else to fix them but sadly, searching for a partner is often a huge motivation for us to improve and that's a big mistake.