es0tericus · 26-30
detach yourself from them, emotionally. View it from a perspective beyond your feelings. Treat it like a problem, if It can't be solved or stemmed from irrational impulses, move on. You only had yourself, you only have yourself, and you will only have yourself. What you do with you is up to you.
lilgucciski · 22-25, F
I've already detached myself from them emotionally but I have to live with them, I'm trying to raise money to leave when I finish secondary school but my mum has my passport.
es0tericus · 26-30
Well, then come up with a plan. Have you asked them what they wanted from you?
Did you seek help? If justice and truth is really important to you, then you should fight for it.
Did you seek help? If justice and truth is really important to you, then you should fight for it.
lilgucciski · 22-25, F
@TheObservatory: Bro, I've been fighting ever since I first came here. I either get into a physical dispute or just been told that I am a child so i should "shut up" and don't know any better. It's difficult to leave the house with them around. I'm just trying to raise money but my debit card etc are all with my mum, back in the UK.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
What country were you born in ?
Because that determines whose citizen you are.
If you were born in the UK. That makes you a British Citizen with the same rights as one.
By law, you should have a birth certificate and presumably, a passport if you went there from here !
So who has them ?
You could go to the British Embassy, presumably in the capital city of wherever you are. And explain the situation. They may be able to give you advice.
Because that determines whose citizen you are.
If you were born in the UK. That makes you a British Citizen with the same rights as one.
By law, you should have a birth certificate and presumably, a passport if you went there from here !
So who has them ?
You could go to the British Embassy, presumably in the capital city of wherever you are. And explain the situation. They may be able to give you advice.
lilgucciski · 22-25, F
I was born in the UK.
I live in the capital of Ghana, which is Accra and people usually get around by car or taxi. Since I do not own a car or have money (My uncle has my wallet) I can not get either to go to the embassy or I would.
I live in the capital of Ghana, which is Accra and people usually get around by car or taxi. Since I do not own a car or have money (My uncle has my wallet) I can not get either to go to the embassy or I would.
hlpflwthat · M
Where is boarding school?
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lilgucciski · 22-25, F
@hlpflwthat: You see that's what I thought in the beginning. But it just got to the point where I'd be pinned on the floor endless times and told things like I was deluded or a manipulator. Especially when I would get changed for something and I didn't want to wear a dress he'd be like "If you don't put on those clothes I strip you myself" If my Aunt wasn't there to stop him on numerous occasions then who knows. It's the lies he's poured to my mother who won't even talk to me, she won't even believe me when I tell her.
hlpflwthat · M
Well good on you for trying to see all sides of the issue. And remember that we all manipulate - maybe not as much as your uncle - but we do.
Hard for me to push the parent in me aside. Your mom must have been feeling helpless or overwhelmed to make this decision. And 13 is a lil early to be smoking pot - tho I wouldn't call it a solid reason for deportation.
Hard for me to push the parent in me aside. Your mom must have been feeling helpless or overwhelmed to make this decision. And 13 is a lil early to be smoking pot - tho I wouldn't call it a solid reason for deportation.
lilgucciski · 22-25, F
@hlpflwthat: I understand and I understood my mother's reason for sending me back, though I thought all I needed to do was get good grades, (Which I already do, pretty much) rather than to face my uncle and auntie. Any parent would be concerned but I think if she spoke to me about the life choices I was making, then 2 years later wouldn't be in this mess. She is a good mother, don't get me wrong but now she's growing older and I feel she values family a bit more. She just needs to realise she had a child late (Theres a 13 year age gap between me and my brother), and her not communicating with me proves my point because there was no communication about SERIOUS things and now I've been left to rot, I don't know what to do now in my current situation. I've only been here two months, but the two weeks i've spent at my uncle's, I don't know if I could survive summer.
Jentlemen · 51-55, M
Did you meet Tarzan, while you were there ?
hlpflwthat · M
lilgucciski · 22-25, F
at your big big age skskksksksksk
i need advice
i need advice