Everyone else is "cool" or "cute" and I'm just "nice"?

It seems to be how everyone expresses themselves.

@KiwiDan: Yeh. Some, I think, don't realize how they come across, and it can hurt. Or they don't want to take the time to do better.

@GraceFromEP: I don't think I'm being explanatory enough here. Everyone calls me "nice" which seems to lead to me just being forgotten later on. That's the thing I take issue with.

@KiwiDan: I see. Myself, I think that's a high compliment. I've heard some [b]very[/b] sweet men say "I guess I was too nice, and look where it got me.", then turn into very mean people. It's awful, and such a shame. When people don't realize your worth or appreciate others, it's not about you...it's about their own issues. That says a lot more about them, than it does you. Our worth is not determined by how others see us or respond to us. I stay away from toxic people.

@GraceFromEP: People do that, and I've contemplated doing that, because we feel like we should be nice, and that people might actually respond to that and then we get rejected/brushed off/ignored. You can only do that so much before you switch to "kill all humans" mode, especially with mental illness involved.

@KiwiDan: Everytime I saw some man change like that, I always said to myself, [i]Man, I'd give anything to have someone as sweet as you. I'd treasure you.[/i], but what an absolute turn-off to see someone turn into a smartelic (sp?) just because of that. I run from those type people. Know your worth. You just have to meet the right one who realizes and appreciates your worth. She's out there. Don't give up. And please don't change. I've looked for someone [i]nice[/i] all my life. Never found him. Too many jerks. Treasure who you are. The right one will, believe me.

@GraceFromEP: I'm glad to hear that. But like I said, men turning into that tends to be a result of women hurting them too often. I mean, we do what we can and get rejected pretty much every time. Then you see/hear about other men who are (for lack of a better term) drowning in women, and they all seem to be fuckheads. So we start thinking that we have to be like that to get anywhere with women. It might also help if women like you showed thoughts like that more; it would do absolute wonders for men like me to see/hear that.

@KiwiDan: What you've just described is common to women, too. I've always noticed it's the horrible women who seem to get men falling at her feet. Why? I sure wouldn't know, but men seem to worship women like that. I've been rejected all my life. I know the feeling all too well. It hurts and it hurts bad. You see, I've been one of the [i]nice ones[/i] too, and it got me nowhere, but that doesn't give me the right to turn into a bitter jerk.