Sorry, I don't understand the sentense.

Good point! :-)
It makes sense. When we suggest someone to do a change, we lack the fears that imply to make this change.

Yes, I see. But, in the cases where the similarity doesn't exist. You tend to see clearly what's that person problem. Could it be because you see it from the outside? With a colder head?

@twistermind: in my understanding there's subconcious stuff going on within each us that we're are not aware of. We can become aware of it with help. It takes willingness and effort to look at ourselves. Something that we see in others matches something within ourselves. Not exactly the same thing but similar.

You mean that you are closer to another person than yourself?

@twistermind: no. to the problem. everything looks simple and easy at a distance. you don't have any of the details to weigh you down. sometimes getting back from a problem can help show you a path to a solution. if you're too close to many problems they look insurmountable. like forced perspective in disney makes it look like the magic kingdom goes on for hundreds of miles. but if you walk 5, you find the buildings are only 3 feet tall out there.