Poor Kid, Rich City (Pt. 2)

That moment when you don't know how to explain to your friends that although that seven dollar commodity is cheap to them, it's expensive for you. You simply reply with, "I can't." Then they tell you to ask your parents for the money, but how do you explain to them the guilt you feel for taking your parents hard-earned money to spend on such unnecessary things? Some of these kids got brand new cars on their 16th birthdays. They don't get it. Again you reply, "I can't." Then your friends just think you're cheap.

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Existentior · M

This is what you say to them: "I would feel guilty for taking my parents' hard-earned money to spend on such things".

Yeah, tell me about it. Back when I was a poor student doing my internship, I couldn't have an expensive $25 lunch every day like they did. Even worse, they did it for 'fun'. Yeah, sorry guys but as a student I couldn't afford it. They were engineers, so yeah, no wonder they could pay it.

It's critical to always keep in mind not to try and please the sheep herd! Stay true to yourself! You show yourself! You don't sit around and try to please others for their stupid habits!

I'm proud of you man. You are a good person who values the hardship of money and work.
Take my word for it: you are unique and integer. They are nothing but worthless sheep. You're going to make it far someday!

AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F

Well parents work to keep their kids happy and to give them necessities. It's hard work but all in all it's to keep their kids happy.

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Existentior · M

@Serenitree: You've never seen one?

Serenitree · F

@Existentior: not in my nearly 73 years, except on Leave it to Beaver and Father Know Best.
My parents were great. We were upper middle income. Lived in a nice home. But perfection wasn't in that equation. I often describe my childhood as idyllic, and it was really very pleasant, but even so, I've never known a perfect family.

(Of any colour)

Feb. 8/17
8:15 pm

Existentior · M

@Serenitree: Mhm, well said.

friedchickenwing · 22-25, F

I think if they're good friends, they should be accepting upon realizing that you're not as privileged as them. If you're not comfortable telling them, hopefully they can connect the dots.

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Serenitree · F

@Killers: not if they are friends.

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@Serenitree: Well, humans form opinions about people whether they want to or not. They wouldn't outwardly say it to me, but they would probably think it. This post was more about ignorance, not to throw my friends under the bus, and yes they are for sure my friends. I think your standards for friendship go against human nature.

Serenitree · F

@Killers: I know what you're saying. I do understand. I recall being a teenager. I was very much like you. I think, what I'm trying to say is, you aren't giving your friends enough credit. I often thought if this, or if that, my friends would not like me as much. It turned out my friends were much more understanding than I thought they would or could be. It was my own insecurity that had me thinking that way.

I'm sorry you thought I was knocking them. I was trying to say, you need to trust them more.

Feb. 9/17
1:18 am

Serenitree · F

Those aren't your friends.
Your friends would accept your first answer.

You're a good person with a good caring heart. Your reason for saying no, is yours alone. If they don't appreciate that, they don't appreciate or deserve you.

Stay strong.

Feb. 8/17
7:57 pm

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They weren't really malicious about it. I don't appear to be someone of low-income, so they assume that I can afford it and I'm just being stingy. They're just so accustomed to how wealthy everyone is in the city that they don't understand all of the reasons why I would be saying "I can't".

Serenitree · F

@Killers: I understand. Perhaps if you explained your limitations, they might be more understanding.

Feb 8/17
8:05 pm

Mondayschild · F

I get it. I have been there.

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