I'm just speaking my mind and feelings
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31-35, M
OogieBoogie · F
Sometimes we put too much weight on things.
Which is totally expected coz we are continuously bombarded with society telling us who to be, what we should have, how to behave and what to value.
Its a minefield.
Thing is....are you defined by the people you know....the friends you've had?
Are you defined by the friends you don't have?
Do people get to define who we are?
Is that where our value is?
More people are alone than you think.
Its just some are at peace with it, and some are yet to be.
Sometimes the very thing you are pushing for, is the very thing that eludes you.... because you are pushing so hard.
Maybe.....be enough for yourself?
Be the friend you would want for yourself.
Find contentment in your own company.
Stop needing and grasping for something to fill that hole.... when the best thing you can do is be such a whole person, there is no hole?
The thing is.... when we need other people for things within us, they feel it.
They feel the weight of that responsibility. It's scary for them.
Many may run from it.
Would you want the weight of someones feeling and sense of worth be your full responsibility?
It's a big ask of anyone.
It sounds counter productive - but being strong within oneself and not needing....is actually quite attractive to people.
They think, "Whew!... someone who doesn't need anything from me... thank heavens"😅
Life is hard.
Everyone has burdens.
Sometimes others just cant risk giving any more of themsleves to others.
They mignt be picking up on your feelings of being alone.... and it scares them 🤷♀
I hope this makes sense.
Which is totally expected coz we are continuously bombarded with society telling us who to be, what we should have, how to behave and what to value.
Its a minefield.
Thing is....are you defined by the people you know....the friends you've had?
Are you defined by the friends you don't have?
Do people get to define who we are?
Is that where our value is?
More people are alone than you think.
Its just some are at peace with it, and some are yet to be.
Sometimes the very thing you are pushing for, is the very thing that eludes you.... because you are pushing so hard.
Maybe.....be enough for yourself?
Be the friend you would want for yourself.
Find contentment in your own company.
Stop needing and grasping for something to fill that hole.... when the best thing you can do is be such a whole person, there is no hole?
The thing is.... when we need other people for things within us, they feel it.
They feel the weight of that responsibility. It's scary for them.
Many may run from it.
Would you want the weight of someones feeling and sense of worth be your full responsibility?
It's a big ask of anyone.
It sounds counter productive - but being strong within oneself and not needing....is actually quite attractive to people.
They think, "Whew!... someone who doesn't need anything from me... thank heavens"😅
Life is hard.
Everyone has burdens.
Sometimes others just cant risk giving any more of themsleves to others.
They mignt be picking up on your feelings of being alone.... and it scares them 🤷♀
I hope this makes sense.
TheArchivist · 31-35, M
@OogieBoogie thanks...I know all of that and it is helpful
class · F
I listened to the entire 10 min 44 seconds a few times.
The agressor: trying to override conversations to single you out maybe, i dont think he would befriend but maybe he would on his own eventually.
Dont push others away, they could be going through something and holding onto what they have.
When others dont reply sooner: their mind could be in the wrong place and still mean well.
Wearing on you: ghosting, it makes sense others are not so thoughtful because they have few friends i notice but you should take these as a grain of salt of guesses.
Its normally not you being the problem if you are indecisive of the answer being your problem or their shaky behaviors.
Wish it were easier on you.
The agressor: trying to override conversations to single you out maybe, i dont think he would befriend but maybe he would on his own eventually.
Dont push others away, they could be going through something and holding onto what they have.
When others dont reply sooner: their mind could be in the wrong place and still mean well.
Wearing on you: ghosting, it makes sense others are not so thoughtful because they have few friends i notice but you should take these as a grain of salt of guesses.
Its normally not you being the problem if you are indecisive of the answer being your problem or their shaky behaviors.
Wish it were easier on you.