is it right that i take offence when i think someone is being 'too familiar'
i'm a private person and i don't like it when someone i don't know is being too familiar....like there's a elder woman who works at the supermarket i go to, i have been going there years...and she has worked there longer than i have been going there.......and last week while i was at the checkout and putting my groceries through the checkout.....she came and stood right near me....looking directly at me whilst i was putting my groceries on the conveyer belt, and she was making me feel uncomfortable....then after about 5 minutes of her standing there near me, she comes over and says, '' here i'll put the rest on for you'' and i never said anything and went through to bag up my groceries...but i resented what she did, i didn't need any ''help'' i was perfectly capable of handling my groceries myself.
and once years ago when i was over charged for groceries at the checkout...i had to take my receipt back to the store to get a refund and it was her who dealt with it at the time and she spoke to me like you would a child, like i was vulnerable person....i was still polite to the woman but internally i felt very angry that she spoke to me that way....because she doesn't know me nor i know her, yet she's being familiar?
i was told its probably because she recognizes my face because ive been going there years and she knows my face...but that still doesn't give her the right to be too familiar....i'm very sensitive in that way and easily take offence and as i said i'm a private person and want to choose who i interact with..
do you think im being too over the top about this or is it understandable the way i feel?
and once years ago when i was over charged for groceries at the checkout...i had to take my receipt back to the store to get a refund and it was her who dealt with it at the time and she spoke to me like you would a child, like i was vulnerable person....i was still polite to the woman but internally i felt very angry that she spoke to me that way....because she doesn't know me nor i know her, yet she's being familiar?
i was told its probably because she recognizes my face because ive been going there years and she knows my face...but that still doesn't give her the right to be too familiar....i'm very sensitive in that way and easily take offence and as i said i'm a private person and want to choose who i interact with..
do you think im being too over the top about this or is it understandable the way i feel?
46-50, M
