Do you think that depression is selfish?

[center]Especially if depressed people are those which brags always about it and seek attention. Do you think it's selfish of them? In my opinion they are kinda selfish. I had talk about it with a classmate, where she is such a happy go lucky person, always full of energy. We agreed that such a people can drain your energy out of you. Especially if you are emphatic person. What are thoughts on this topic? And do you agree or not? Or if you have experience with such a things.

Edit: To those before you try to understand my question I'll say it shortly, I don't make fun or take lightly depression, it's still serious condition, this questions is more about people who are using it as an excuse for attention. Because as I can see it cause quite ruckus :) [/center]

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JaneSerenity · 26-30, F

Looks like you took wrong idea, I don't mean to sound harsch to people who sufers from depressions, since it's very serious but there are different kind of types of it...serious ones and those which do it for attention. So please don't try to take offense or that I am making fun of it.

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@JaneSerenity: if you're doing it just for attention then it's not real. Depression and dealing with depression takes knowledge and help, not everyone has access to that. If someone posts about it online maybe that's them asking for help. Who are you to judge who has it and who doesn't though? Everyone copes in different ways and each person has their own additional issues.

JaneSerenity · 26-30, F

@Kuronekko: Kuronekko ... *thinking* how should I explain what I was trying to say. I was really just talking about those who do it for attention, real depressions are serious I don't try to make it look as if it's nothing. And I don't judge anyone I was talking in general, cause as in my case I met many people who were those attentions seekers and just looked for pity when nothing really serious happened to them. It was kinda that "fake" depression. Because when you turn your back to them, they act all happy. Looks like my question made everyone think that I was just making of it, that wasn't my intention.

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@JaneSerenity: then you aren't talking about depression, you are talking about attention seeking, which honestly is an issue in itself. Healthy people don't go out of their way to get attention from others.

JaneSerenity · 26-30, F

@Kuronekko: That's why I did edit, looks like I explained it the wrong way which gave wrong impressions... it's kinda hard to write thoughts if the English is not my first language so sorry about that. But really for me depression...real depression is serious topic. But people who say that they are depressed are usually not so.. that was the point.

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@JaneSerenity: I might add that depression doesn't mean that you are walking around like death warmed up at all times, just because a person seems ok on the surface when they are around people isn't a true reflection of how they feel inside. I can tell you for a fact that I often wait until I get back through my front door to cry and show any kind of feeling at all. Also online is very different to real life, especially in a place like this, anonymity makes people much more likely to share their actual feelings. I talk about my depression a lot more openly here and it's very helpful when others post about theirs because you realise that you aren't alone in it.

JaneSerenity · 26-30, F

@Kuronekko: Yeah I can understand since ...I admit I was dealing with it too, but I try to be much more positive at least about it. And don't let it swallow mind.... focus on better things is always great help :) Really sorry that you thought that I was trying to take it lightly. :)