How some people treat/raise their kids makes me feel sick

And then theres me and my boyfriend who was honest with ourselves that we shouldnt have kids because we are in an bdsm relationship and we dont want the kids to pick up on it. By the way thats not the only reaon for it , we mainly just thought we couldnt give them An great life and kids desereve the world, but in all honesty dont have kids if you arent mentally stable or know you will make an shit parent or cant love them enough in an healthy way. Dont traumatise others just because you had it done to you as an child. It makes me extremely sad seeing kids suffer all because some people was too selfish to realise their problems or admit to them or do anything to heal themseleves before having kids , That happened to me as an kid and I promised myself and my boyfriend we arent putting any other kid through that and I will get my tubes tied if needed. By the way kids are close to our hearts so we both feel strongely about this , and it was an hard descion to make , and maybe one day once im healed mentally and sorted out my physical health We could but I dont think we should with our relationship unless theres an way kids dont know about it but I dont know how that would work , money isnt an issue , its just one of those difficult subjects.