What do you do when the heart won't give up?

My girlfriend is an addict who isn't ready to give up, so we just split up recently. I know the path she is taking is of self destruction in more ways than one, and that for my own sanity I should let her go to live her own life, but my heart still wants to chase after her and try and bring her back and save her.
No matter how hard I try and concentrate on the hurt and pain she's caused me with her addiction over the past 3 months, I still love her, and my heart pines for her.
How do I get over this?

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SW-User

I'm sorry. That is so difficult. Maybe your absence will make her reevaluate her life choices. I don't think you can stop loving her or being hurt. Do something that you didn't do together. Try to make new memories.

NewBaz · 61-69, M

Trying so hard. At some self help meeting every night, but so worried about her. Haven't heard from her in days. Thinking the worst. Praying she's ok.

SW-User

@NewBaz: I really am sorry. You are in a horrible position. ((Hugs))

NewBaz · 61-69, M

@Laifu1: thank you. Really appreciate the hugs. Just wish I wasn't so sensitive.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Having been in the drug world off and on since I was 14, you should consider your girlfriend dead until she proves otherwise. Because she essentially is.

You might be interested in Narconon.

Alexz7272 · 31-35, F

Going to sound cliche but honestly just time. Get involved in some clubs or sports and keep yourself occupied.

lag1956 · 61-69, F

The heart so often rules the head. I feel your pain.

NewBaz · 61-69, M

You're right, but that's the person I am, and I am comfortable with that. Just need to learn to set boundaries and protect my heart, but it's difficult for me, especially on days when I'm low and feel like I need her.

Socialclutz · 36-40, M

what kind of drug?

NewBaz · 61-69, M

Alcohol

Socialclutz · 36-40, M

I guess I haven't experienced a near one develop dependency on alcohol. I hope her the best though

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