Apparently all the good ones are either taken or married

So does this mean the ones available are not good enough? I hear single people using this line all the time, I then wonder how ironic 🤔... Here you are single obviously not taken or married, then you too would comfortably fall under the category of being "not good enough"

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Anopenheart · 51-55, M

well, consider that most married people are in completely disfunctional relationships. So, all the good ones are not necesarily taken . many of the dysfunctional ones are taken

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

Thanks for cheering me up

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

i bought in to that when after my divorce. it is easy to think that only married people are happy and capable of being in a relationship. they are just better at faking it. lol the only question you should ask your self is WHY you are single, or married.

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

@innocentfun4u: can't find the right one but trying

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

that is all that matters is that you are trying, making yoru self available. pop culture implies that once you get married, life stops. you dont need to keep growing and that all problems are solved. gosh, just the opposite. that is when the real challenges and growth start

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

@innocentfun4u: what kinda challenges

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

living alone is much easier. you dont have to bounce your pans off anyone. being with someone means constant adjustment and compromise and thinking of someone else and letting them affect your life. it means someone is there to call you on your bullshit which is not fun, but good for you. It means you have to build empathy for someone else. it is like with sex. if it is all about your own pleasure, then it will fail. but sex should be as much about giving pleasure as receiving it. you have to be present to what they want, need and like, which in turn makes your pleasure better. being fully present to someone else, sexually, emotionally, socially, spiritually, is the hardest thing to do.

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

@innocentfun4u: I'm just tired of being lonely

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

well, i totally get that. it sucks. even in a marriage it gets lonely. in some ways that is worse becuase you are reminded that you ARE alone with someone who is in the same room as you. wanting to share your life or experiences is the definition of being human. it is why many of us are on SW

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

@innocentfun4u: just wish I had someone to love me

Anopenheart · 51-55, M

good. as painful as that is that means you are human and alive.

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

@innocentfun4u: yeah I guess. Hug