I'll tell you things I wish someone told me before.
1) It's okay to say [b]no.[/b]
2) You deserve to feel safe. You [b]should[/b] feel safe. If you don't feel safe, something is wrong. Do something about it.
3) Children, love your mom and dad. They may seem like superman and superwoman and are your constants now. But they won't always be there. Be kind to them. Forgive them. Love them for as long as you could. Because when you can't... well I wouldn't wish that on you.
4) True good friends would make you feel safe and accepted and wanted and celebrated, not tolerated and certainly not used. If you want to cancel on a hangout just to spend time for yourself, that should be okay. True good friends make you feel like a better person with or without them on your side. True good friends are more than just companionship.
5) Fight for yourself. If you don't, no one will. You're the only one who truly knows what's inside your heart, what you need at that moment when the world feels like its caging you in. Let him/her breathe. He/she deserves to be loved and protected by you.
6) You could teach people how to treat you by what you allow and not allow them to do. [b]Set boundaries and set them clear. [/b] It will benefit you in the long run.
7) When you feel too lost or burdened, there's no act more powerful than kneeling to God in prayer.
8) Blood family may not always have the best intentions for you. Be wise and very selective of who you listen to.
9) You'll be okay. It may take a while. A long while. But you'll get there. Just don't give up. Not on you. Not on who and what are important to you. You are stronger than you think.
P.S. You and I are living different lives. Some of you may have come from broken or abusive families. We do not share the same path. I mean no offense to what you're going through.
But in my life, the road I've been through and are going through, these are the things that contributed to who I am now. :)
2) You deserve to feel safe. You [b]should[/b] feel safe. If you don't feel safe, something is wrong. Do something about it.
3) Children, love your mom and dad. They may seem like superman and superwoman and are your constants now. But they won't always be there. Be kind to them. Forgive them. Love them for as long as you could. Because when you can't... well I wouldn't wish that on you.
4) True good friends would make you feel safe and accepted and wanted and celebrated, not tolerated and certainly not used. If you want to cancel on a hangout just to spend time for yourself, that should be okay. True good friends make you feel like a better person with or without them on your side. True good friends are more than just companionship.
5) Fight for yourself. If you don't, no one will. You're the only one who truly knows what's inside your heart, what you need at that moment when the world feels like its caging you in. Let him/her breathe. He/she deserves to be loved and protected by you.
6) You could teach people how to treat you by what you allow and not allow them to do. [b]Set boundaries and set them clear. [/b] It will benefit you in the long run.
7) When you feel too lost or burdened, there's no act more powerful than kneeling to God in prayer.
8) Blood family may not always have the best intentions for you. Be wise and very selective of who you listen to.
9) You'll be okay. It may take a while. A long while. But you'll get there. Just don't give up. Not on you. Not on who and what are important to you. You are stronger than you think.
P.S. You and I are living different lives. Some of you may have come from broken or abusive families. We do not share the same path. I mean no offense to what you're going through.
But in my life, the road I've been through and are going through, these are the things that contributed to who I am now. :)
