Have you ever felt like avoiding those who actually try to help you?
Like they'd say "do this soon, or that might happen" and you'd be like "oh no, not again, I just want some break now"?
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elafina · 36-40, F
the greatest help in life i got it from a dear friend who told me "don't ask me for help, i'm not going to help you"
I appear open, sensitive, curious, and have a great empty space in my life. People are fast to try and help me while they cannot. They think sometimes that this emptiness in my life needs to be filled, and maybe they're right, but they try to make suggestions to fill it that are irrelevant or further distract me from my .. truth..or whatever it is that.
Another friend told me that i appear to be "searching for something", so maybe this could be another reason that people come with the will to help me. The opposite happens as well. Exactly because i appear sensitive and low profile, with plenty of time in life, some others are quick and find it easy to ask me for help, basically burden me with their stuff, where there's not seriously much help needed, just to find someone else do what they could do differently.
Another friend was telling me, "there are two kind of people in this world, those you came here to help and those who came here to be helped"
Giving and asking for help has been troubling me a lot through my life, since from my upbringing i felt obliged to help anyone anytime and accept any help given with respect. But there are lots of people who misuse either those who appear helpful or those who appear sensitive or doubtful - they're fast to fill them with their solutions and truth they found about life. I've been playing a role in both of those categories.
I think in the end it all comes down to you, to know how to politely refuse their will to overpower your doubtful moment, even if that comes from their most kind intentions.
I appear open, sensitive, curious, and have a great empty space in my life. People are fast to try and help me while they cannot. They think sometimes that this emptiness in my life needs to be filled, and maybe they're right, but they try to make suggestions to fill it that are irrelevant or further distract me from my .. truth..or whatever it is that.
Another friend told me that i appear to be "searching for something", so maybe this could be another reason that people come with the will to help me. The opposite happens as well. Exactly because i appear sensitive and low profile, with plenty of time in life, some others are quick and find it easy to ask me for help, basically burden me with their stuff, where there's not seriously much help needed, just to find someone else do what they could do differently.
Another friend was telling me, "there are two kind of people in this world, those you came here to help and those who came here to be helped"
Giving and asking for help has been troubling me a lot through my life, since from my upbringing i felt obliged to help anyone anytime and accept any help given with respect. But there are lots of people who misuse either those who appear helpful or those who appear sensitive or doubtful - they're fast to fill them with their solutions and truth they found about life. I've been playing a role in both of those categories.
I think in the end it all comes down to you, to know how to politely refuse their will to overpower your doubtful moment, even if that comes from their most kind intentions.