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I'm about to turn 21 soon, yet I feel like a kid. Hear me out below...

I go to university, work, pay rent with my parents. Have excellent credit score. Pay my car. Work out. Don't do drugs or don't want to consume alcohol. Eat healthy. And meditate every once in a while.

The thing is I am a tomboy. I mix my clothes with some femininity and some masculinity. Yet I'm still a woman.

I look at these other women who are older than me, who are more feminine than me and I think to myself, "Is this what an adult woman should be like?"

I wonder to myself if it's okay for me to still be a tomboy.
I do all those things in the first paragraph, but I still feel like a kid. I notice around me that "adults" don't really joke around with the kid inside them. Rather it's mundane and monotonous humor with adults. I notice that adult women, I also don't really relate to either. I don't fit in anywhere. Do I need to just "Grow up?" I don't know.
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No, no, no. There’s nothing wrong with continuing to be exactly who you are. You don’t have to conform to stereotypes to be “an adult woman”—you’re already behaving like one—being responsible and taking care of business. You can try on the trappings, dresses, make up, heels, if you’re curious, to see if that [b]also[/b] feels like you sometimes. If it does, cool. Do it on your terms. If not, that is fine, too. And you will find friends who “get” your humor and share it, if you haven’t already. 😊