When you go looking for someone, you’ll usually end up with wrong people. Maybe a part of it is because you are trying to fill in a void and to do that you overlook the obvious signs. Dating sites and stuff barely work, I have never been there, but there’s no way you can tell if someone would be genuinely interested in you by just communicating with you online while they have access to so many candidates who are fighting for their attention which they are actually getting. From the experience of one of my friends she was devastated when she found out the guy she was interested in was messing around with several women after meeting them. I don’t think online that one to one ratio would work unless you establish a deep connection with someone who wouldn’t look beyond you and make way to your real life.
I’d say win them over by your personality taking your time, if you compete for their attention and try to sell yourself, there are plenty of others doing that and you’ll be lost somewhere or end up being hurt. If you can’t, you still have nothing to lose. Waiting may help, but how long I just don’t know as I have never gone looking for anyone. All my former partners including my wife came into my life at most unexpected times. I’d say don’t rush into a relationship with wrong type of people. You do either wait till the person arrives or just get along with someone who’s not your type. Both have their pros and cons.
