Our talks seem to be the same everytime, but once I ask her for advice, her face lights up?

Like when I visit her at her workplace in retail, it's somehow monotonous meanwhile, but everytime I ask her for advice, she becomes far more vivid and her face lights up as if she started her work day right then.

What irritates me here is that I don't always know questions worth asking her which would make her apparently feel like her job was important despite working in it for 10 years now. On the other hand, that often demotivates me to even visit her.

How should I deal with interacting in her apparently monotonous job life?

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

OOh I'd hesitate a bit on the assumptions that her job is not important.. it may be to her... ok so she likes giving advice.. in a way you are flattering her, making her feel useful and like she is good at giving advice.. That's not a basis for a relationship.. AND you don't need to keep knocking yourself out thinking of things you can ask her advice on..

My feeling is that you need to try to engage her in more meaningful or different conversations than just asking her for advice.. she's not a counsellor, she's someone you want to date :P